Julie Bacolas, Case Study of a Hereditary Malignant Narcissist

Julie Bacolas, Case Study of a Hereditary Malignant Narcissist Julie Bacolas, Case Study of a Hereditary Malignant Narcissist Julie Bacolas, Case Study of a Hereditary Malignant Narcissist
Julia Bacolas
A Father's Struggle
Julie Bacolas Sociopath
Repression of Trauma
Community Medical
Ed Stoffers
Christopher Bacolas
Michael Robertson
Leandra Stenbak
Cory Huskey
Narcissist Smear Campaign
Narcissistic Abuse
Lisa Millett DCS Arizona
The Future
Disclaimer
Request for Citations

Julie Bacolas, Case Study of a Hereditary Malignant Narcissist

Julie Bacolas, Case Study of a Hereditary Malignant Narcissist Julie Bacolas, Case Study of a Hereditary Malignant Narcissist Julie Bacolas, Case Study of a Hereditary Malignant Narcissist
Julia Bacolas
A Father's Struggle
Julie Bacolas Sociopath
Repression of Trauma
Community Medical
Ed Stoffers
Christopher Bacolas
Michael Robertson
Leandra Stenbak
Cory Huskey
Narcissist Smear Campaign
Narcissistic Abuse
Lisa Millett DCS Arizona
The Future
Disclaimer
Request for Citations
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  • Julia Bacolas
  • A Father's Struggle
  • Julie Bacolas Sociopath
  • Repression of Trauma
  • Community Medical
  • Ed Stoffers
  • Christopher Bacolas
  • Michael Robertson
  • Leandra Stenbak
  • Cory Huskey
  • Narcissist Smear Campaign
  • Narcissistic Abuse
  • Lisa Millett DCS Arizona
  • The Future
  • Disclaimer
  • Request for Citations
  • Julia Bacolas
  • A Father's Struggle
  • Julie Bacolas Sociopath
  • Repression of Trauma
  • Community Medical
  • Ed Stoffers
  • Christopher Bacolas
  • Michael Robertson
  • Leandra Stenbak
  • Cory Huskey
  • Narcissist Smear Campaign
  • Narcissistic Abuse
  • Lisa Millett DCS Arizona
  • The Future
  • Disclaimer
  • Request for Citations
Michael Bacolas

Michael Bacolas Jr: Corruption from the narcissistic brain..

Proud of his family history, Michael Robertson waited until his own father's death for name change!

"May the Lord forgive me for bringing him into this world and any crimes my son may commit against innocent children." Michael Robertson, 2017 


After years of exposing her and the children to Michael Bacolas' unabated NPD pedophilia, his wife, Leandra Bacolas, took her two prepubescent daughters and left a dysfunctional life of over a decade of narcissistic abuse:
 

https://juliebacolas.com/leandra-stenbak 


A father's struggle...


Michael Robertson struggled as a father dealing with the unabated addiction of Michael Bacolas to pedophilia and his NPD ideations with prepubescent children. 


The father is a 34 year survivor of the pedophilic narcissistic abuse by Michael Bacolas and his lifetime of NPD malignancies:


https://michaelbacolas.com/


ABOUT THE AUTHOR OF THIS WEBSITE
 

Michael Robertson has worked in the behavioral health field with at risk child and adolescent populations at Arizona Baptist Children's Services, as a program supervisor at Community Psychology & Educational Services, and through the health care registry as a psychiatric technician at the Maricopa County Psychiatric Annex in Phoenix, Arizona.            


Michael Robertson's life work was devoted to developing the intellectual capacities in his SMI children.    


In 2004, Michael Robertson founded the "Counseling Outreach for Battered Women & Abused Children" and also a top fundraiser in the State of Arizona for charitable causes supporting the widows and children of police officers who lost their lives in the line of duty:   


https://fop.net/


Expert Witness in Narcissistic Pedophilia and Menticide.


In 2022, Michael Robertson is listed  nationally with Expert Engine as an expert witness with matters involving child protective services, parents of children who are victims of sexual assault, and narcissistic menticide abuse and recovery:              


https://www.expertengine.com/expert/child-protective-services-parent-advocacy-narcissistic-menticide-abuse-recovery/


In the realm of abuse to children and families, a common trait of perpetrators is narcissistic pedophilia.     


Areas of parental expertise in cases involving narcissistic abuse & early cognitive causes: narcissistic abuse, narcissism survivors, NPD personality, childhood narcissism, and narcissistic pedophilia.        


From a surviving parent's perspective, areas of expertise in cases involving childhood victims of sexual abuse include: childhood trauma, family abuse, sex abuse, family recovery, child psychology, emotional trauma, repressed trauma, family recovery, pedophile perpetrators, cognitive pedophilia, registered offenders, pedophilia causes, childhood SMI, trauma counseling, family counseling, counseling outcomes, psychosocial impact, and psychosocial impact:    


https://parentsofsexualabusevictims.com/expert-witness-services


Phoenix Coalition for the Families and Victims of Child Sexual Abuse. 


Michael Robertson retired from behavioral health in 2005, but returned in 2021 to serve parents of children who are victims of sexual abuse, and adult survivors of narcissistic abuse:   


https://parentsofsexualabusevictims.com/  


On July 23, 2021, Mr. Robertson accepted the position as the Clinical Director of the Phoenix Coalition for the Families and Victims of Child Sexual Abuse:


https://parentsofsexualabusevictims.com/clinical-director


 

Michael Robertson's 1998 Master's Thesis Completed with this case study:


In 2009, Julia Bacolas conducted a menticide against her severely mentally ill (SMI) children from her first marriage, dually diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).  Her children were already symptomatic of mental illness, due to the hereditary dispositions of Julia Bacolas, whose malignant genetic NPD was already heavily documented at the end of her marriage and during the divorce and custody proceedings in 1998. 


This website is a case study of a Machiavellian malignant narcissist and her NPD heredity which was passed to her children, with case studies of each SMI individual in support of this thesis. This study is a conclusion of Michael Robertson's unfinished Master's Thesis, "Accelerating Children's Cognitive Development." The conclusion is apparent: Children who are prescreened in early cognitive testing with brain abnormalities of cognitive, language, and developmental dysfunction should not have their cognitive development accelerated, as those early childhood screenings of cognitive retardation are indicative of abnormal brain development, which are cognitive markers for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Children who are identified in early childhood cognitive screenings for NPD should not have their cognitive development accelerated, as it produces adults with higher levels of criminal and malignant reasoning, and exasperates their hereditary dispositions for the expression of severe mental illness as adults.


These conclusions do not imply children with developmental cognitive delays as markers for NPD should not receive special needs services to become adaptive children. These conclusions support the premise that beyond special needs interventions, NPD children should not have their cognitive development accelerated to gifted and genius levels, as individuals suffering from this disorder have areas of the brain with abnormalities in the expression of emotional and cognitive empathy. Therefore, accelerating children to a gifted level of intelligence with an absence, or low, cognitive function for empathy, has the deleterious effect of creating adult individuals with hyper criminality and malignancy with the diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.


This content is for the parties who are its subject matter. When dealing with malignant narcissism, the perpetrators must be faced with the truth of their conduct, for proper mental health awareness and healing can take place with the perpetrators of such abuse. The secondary reason for this content is to repair the reputation of Michael Robertson, grossly destroyed by these malicious attacks against his person and character by these perpetrators. And finally, the content is used as a case study in the treatment of other survivors of narcissistic abuse.


Julie Allor married Michael Bacolas, Sr. in 1987


Michael Roberson met Julie Bacolas when he was 22 years old, in Anchorage, Alaska. The couple met while employed in management positions in the culinary industry. Some time after they ended their relationship, Julie came to Michael's home and disclosed a pregnancy. 


Michael Roberson married Julie in her first trimester of pregnancy.  Michael Bacolas Jr. was born in 1987.


After their first child was born, the father's best friend at the time, Jim Keane, decided to read Julie’s diaries(s) from her adolescence. Michael Robertson  had no interest in doing so, but did not stop Jim from reading this private material. Jim was their roommate and boyfriend of Julie's twin sister, Janice.


Jim found diary entries showing Julie disclosed that she had been raped as a restaurant worker at the age of 15 by her supervisor, a much older adult married man in his 30s, by the name of Dave Berry. Three years of diary entries revealed this man continued to perpetrate on Julie as a young adolescent girl, and she disclosed in her entries of falling in love with him.


Julie later admitted to her husband that she continued that relationship with Dave Berry until the family relocated to Arizona to attend college  in 1990.


This was Michael Robertson's first experience with malignant narcissism.


Michael Bacolas early childhood screenings: severe cognitive retardation & markers for narcissistic pedophilia


Michael Bacolas jr was the first child to be identified with cognitive and developmental retardation. Two of his other siblings were also screened through the Washington School District at three years old with severe developmental, language, and cognitive deficits (cognitive test results available upon request).  These cognitive and developmental deficits in early childhood screenings were markers for brain abnormalities of individuals suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and the development of narcissistic pedophilia:


https://michaelbacolas.com/


The measurements used to determine these disabilities were the Cognitive Abilities Test and later, the Wechsler Intelligence Scale for Children.


Michael's siblings, Amanda and Jennifer Bacolas, had global test scores showing extreme developmental delays and cognitive intelligence IQ scores that indicated borderline mentally retardation (1991 - 1996 test results from Special Needs Programs at Manzanita Elementary School and the Washington School District will be produced upon request).


Michael Bacolas' test scores were reflective of an IQ of mental retardation. His siblings cognitive deficits were more profound.  Amanda Bacolas suffered the greatest deficits....globally the child scored 3 1/2 to 4 1/2 standard deviations below the "mean" on these cognitive tests, with an IQ reflective of a child with mental retardation (IQ scores below 70).


These cognitive and developmental issues with the Bacolas children altered the educational and career path for Michael Robertson, away from pre-law undergraduate studies leading to a career in law with a Juris Doctor degree, to an education in developmental psychology and graduate coursework in counseling and childhood cognitive development.


Neglectful maternal parenting of Michael Bacolas and his siblings 


Julia Bacolas was a detached mother and showed little interest in maternal interactions with her children. At all opportunities, she skirted her responsibilities for the caregiving of her offspring. Her argument for apathetic interest in her children's development was that Michael Roberson was "better with the children" and "the children listen to him."


Between 1994 and 1998, Julie Bacolas suffered from an extreme addiction to crystal meth amphetamines. She refused treatment for her addiction, resorted to prostitution to pay for her drugs, and was emotionally absent from thee family.


This apathetic parenting was later attributed to a great lack of empathy to the needs of her kids. Children need an involved, positive, and emotionally attached mother. Otherwise, research shows that their children will suffer negative developmental outcomes.


https://www.povertyactionlab.org/policy-insight/encouraging-early-childhood-stimulation-parents-and-caregivers-improve-child


In hindsight, Julie Bacolas' parenting contributed the severe development deficits and cognitive retardation with her children, leading to a life time of arrested development with her oldest son, Michael Bacolas Jr.


Michael's cognitive retardation & maternal neglect changed father's career path


Due to severe cognitive, developmental, and language delays with Michael Bacolas and his siblings, Michael Robertson changed his course of studies to developmental psychology and instituted a rigorous intervention program utilizing the most current research on correcting cognitive deficiencies in children.


Michael Robertson completed his undergraduate research project, which later became the outline for his Master's Thesis, "Accelerating Children's Cognitive Development" and applied those theories to the developmental and cognitive delays with Michael Bacolas and his siblings. Consequently, the child experienced rapid dendritic growth and went from an IQ of borderline mental retardation, to a child in adolescence with average intellectual giftedness (testing in the 99th percentile on qualitative and quantitative reasoning on the Weschler Intelligence Scale for Children). 


As a consequence of the parenting and cognitive interventions by the father, Michael Bacolas attended "Project Potential" throughout his elementary school years, a program for the gifted and talented through the Washington School District, in Phoenix, Arizona (school records and cognitive test scores showing progress from cognitive retardation to giftedness is available upon request). 


An enriching environment, intellectual stimulation, and a high amino acid diet was the key to remedying Michael Bacolas and his siblings cognitive and mental disabilities.


Michael Bacolas tested genius levels in quantitive and qualitative reasoning, but his grades in elementary school were "D" and sometimes "C" level. The boy was not motivated outside his father's push for excellence. Michael lacked intrinsic motivation to succeed in school, due to his cognitive deficits in the areas of his brain related his developmental disability, the neglect he experienced from his mother during his formative years, and as a result of the aforementioned...his failure to properly resolve the early development childhood crises of "Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt" and "Initiative vs. Guilt" (Erikson, 1950).


https://www.verywellmind.com/erik-eriksons-stages-of-psychosocial-development-2795740


1998 kidnapping and sexual assault of Michael Bacolas younger sister


In 1998, Julia Bacolas kidnapped Michael Bacolas and his siblings from their father's care. Previously, she had deserted the family three times, lasting from a few days to a week. The kidnapping was reputational as the mother did not want to be disparaged by her husband again for maternal abandonment. The father believed at the time the kidnapping was for show, as his wife knew he would fight for his children (which she didn't want to parent).


During this time of separation from the father and his children, the youngest sibling was sexually molested by Julie Bacolas' boyfriend, Ed Stoffers (Edward Troy Stoffers, Edward Stoffers).


https://amandabacolas.com/ed-stoffers


Ed Stoffers in 1998 sexually molested Jennifer Bacolas while under her mother's care (as validated through CPS records, the Glendale Police Department in Arizona, and audio tape sessions with trauma counselor Rochelle Silverman; evidentiary documents available upon request). Consequently, Michael Robertson was made the custodial parent of Michael Jr. and his siblings and the mother, Julia Bacolas (aka Julie Stoffers, aka Julie Allor) fled Phoenix and the joint custody of her common children to protect Edward Stoffers from questioning and the eventual prosecution for this assault. 


Michael was abandoned again by his mother, which was a contributing factor to his arrested development.

Father changed his name to protect his second family.

Michael Robertson changed his name in 2017 (formerly Michael Bacolas Sr.) in order to distance himself and his reputation away from Julie Bacolas and her children and his past life as a survivor of narcissistic abuse.


https://arizonadcscorruption.com/arizona-dcs-corruption/f/84m-in-damages-filed-by-a-dcs-sponsored-fraudulent-adoption

Michael Bacolas Jr Pedophile Disclosure

Michael Bacolas Jr. unresolved psychosocial development

Erik Erikson's Psychosocial Stages

Eric Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development is a theory introduced in the 1950s by the psychologist and psychoanalyst Erik Erikson. It built upon Freud’s theory of psychosexual development by drawing parallels in childhood stages while expanding it to include the influence of social dynamics as well as the extension of psychosocial development into adulthood.


It posits eight sequential stages of individual human development influenced by biological, psychological, and social factors throughout the lifespan. This bio-psychosocial approach has influenced several fields of study, including gerontology, personality development, identity formation, life cycle development, and more .


https://psychology.fas.harvard.edu/people/erik-erikson


Each stage in Erikson's theory builds on the preceding stages and paves the way for following periods of development. In each stage, Erikson believed people experience a conflict (crisis) that serves as a turning point in development.


In Erikson's view, these conflicts are centered on either developing a psychological quality or failing to develop that quality. During these times, the potential for personal growth is high but so is the potential for failure.


If people successfully deal with the conflict, they emerge from the stage with psychological strengths that will serve them well for the rest of their lives. If they fail to deal effectively with these conflicts, they may not develop the essential skills needed for a strong sense of self.


https://michaelbacolas.com/psychosocial 


Michael Bacolas unresolved crisis: Trust vs. Mistrust 


The first stage of Erikson's theory of psychosocial development occurs between birth and 1 year of age and is the most fundamental stage in life. Because an infant is utterly dependent, developing trust is based on the dependability and quality of the child's caregivers.


At this point in development, the child is utterly dependent upon adult caregivers for everything they need to survive including food, love, warmth, safety, and nurturing. If a caregiver fails to provide adequate care and love, the child will come to feel that they cannot trust or depend upon the adults in their life.


https://www.verywellmind.com/trust-versus-mistrust-2795741


Michael Bacolas was born to Julie Bacolas and Michael Robertson in 1987. The couple were young parents in their early 20s, both working 70 hours a week in management positions in the culinary industry.


Michael Bacolas was in daycare settings for the first three years of his infancy and childhood, with limited contact with his mother and father, except at bedtime when his parents retrieved their son from childcare.


As a result, Michael did not receive the adequate level of parental attention of "love, warmth, safety, and nurturing"  by these young and immature working parents. Michael Bacolas' documented cognitive retardation in early childhood, as well as his mother's lack of empathy and narcissistic behavior patterns, retarded this child's psychosocial development in this critical stage.


Michael Bacolas did not resolve the psychosocial stage of development of Trust vs. Mistrust, which caused a domino effect of irresolution of the following crises all children face during the course of childhood and adolescence.


https://www.verywellmind.com/trust-versus-mistrust-2795741 


Michael  Bacolas unresolved crisis:  Autonomy vs. Shame & Doubt 


The second stage of Erikson's theory of psychosocial development takes place during early childhood and is focused on children developing a greater sense of personal control. 


At this point in development, children are just starting to gain a little independence. They are starting to perform basic actions on their own and making simple decisions about what they prefer. By allowing kids to make choices and gain control, parents and caregivers can help children develop a sense of autonomy. 


The essential theme of this stage is that children need to develop a sense of personal control over physical skills and a sense of independence. 


If parents do not maintain a reassuring, confident attitude and do nonreinforced the child's efforts to master basic motor and cognitive skills, children may begin to feel shame; they may learn to doubt their abilities to manage the world on their own terms. Children who experience too much doubt att his stage will lack confidence in their own powers throughout life. 


https://web.cortland.edu/andersmd/erik/stage2.html


Michael Bacolas Jr was the first child to be identified with cognitive and developmental retardation.  Coupled with the unintentional parental neglect in his earlier unresolved stage of Trust vs. Mistrust, the child was unable to attain age appropriate independence, he had limited control over his physical skills and expression of independence due to his developmental disability, and directly as a result of this early childhood cognitive retardation, Michael was unable to resolve this critical developmental milestone. 


To exasperate his inability to resolve this crisis, Michael Bacolas had extreme language delay in early childhood, contributing to his inability to exert personal control and independence in his environment, leading to shame and doubt in his abilities. If a child cannot communicate properly with his caregivers and peers, he cannot exert the independence and control necessary to properly navigate this stage of psychosocial development.


Michael Bacolas did not resolve the psychosocial stage of Autonomy vs. Shame & Doubt, leading to an inability to resolve crises in latter stages of development, due to multiple factors. 


Michael Bacolas unresolved crisis:  Initiative vs. Guilt 


The third stage of psychosocial development takes place during the preschool years. At this point in psychosocial development, children begin to assert their power and control over the world through directing play and other social interactions.


Children who are successful at this stage feel capable and able to lead others. Those who fail to acquire these skills are left with a sense of guilt, self-doubt, and lack of initiative.  If the child is put in an environment where initiation is repressed through criticism and control, he/she will develop a sense of guilt. The trust and autonomy of previous stages develop into a desire to take initiative or to think of ideas and initiative action. 


Michael Bacolas Jr. failed to resolve the psychosocial crises of his earlier stages, of no fault of his own.  The child lacked the necessary developmental and cognitive skills necessary to navigate successfully through the Initiative vs. Guilt crisis.
Michael grew up in an environment that hamstrung his early childhood development, based in part on his documented cognitive retardation and severe language delays. This lead to a lifetime of guilt and shame and low self esteem issues that impacted subsequent psychosocial stages.


As a result, the child lacked the abilities to show initiative in academia, peer relationships, and responsibilities to his family as the oldest son.


Michael Robertson's life work was to develop the cognitive skills of his developmentally disabled children, which was the catalyst for his research on the acceleration of his children's cognitive development.


Michael Bacolas lacked intrinsic motivation to succeed in academics. He had no initiative to complete the cognitive interventions developed by his father for dendritic growth in brain cells, necessary to increase his intellectual capabilities. Michael Robertson was forced to tutor the child with these cognitive interventions, as his son lacked the drive, at no fault of his own, to push himself to remedy his neurological deficits.


The absence of initiative during this critical stage of development was also reflected in his academics at school and his participation in the services offered for the gifted and talented. Michael Robertson worked intensely to remedy the cognitive deficits with his developmentally challenged offspring, and the father was so successful with his interventions that three of his offspring advanced from cognitive retardation to intellectual giftedness.


As a result of test scores showing Michael Bacolas advanced to the 99th percentile in qualitative and quantitative reasoning, as reflected on the Cognitive Abilities Test and Wechsler Intelligence Scale for Children (administered by the Washington School District in Phoenix, Arizona) Michael and his siblings were admitted to "Project Potential" for the gifted and talented (1991 - 1996 test results from Special Needs Programs at Manzanita Elementary School and the Washington School District will be produced upon request).  The children received special needs services for developmental delays, while simultaneously receiving services for the gifted and talented.


Michael Bacolas lacked any meaningful initiative to justify remaining in the program for the gifted and talented. Aside from his anemic grades in elementary school, the child barely remained enrolled in the program, as he maintained a consistent "D" average in his gifted classes. Conversely, his other two siblings excelled academically and maintained a consistent "A" average in the Project potential program. The school district allowed Michael to stay in the gifted program based on his IQ test scores, his progress from cognitive retardation to intellectual giftedness, and the intense lobbying by Michael Robertson to allow his son to continue in the program based on his developmental disability. The school district agreed to allow Michael to continue participating in the gifted program and concurred that failing the student from the program would have deleterious consequences to his self esteem.


Michael Bacolas had no friends in elementary school, outside the friends of his younger brother he associated with. The child lacked the initiative to form peer relationships in early childhood, which also effected his ability to form lasting contacts with other adolescents in his teen age years. It is believed the child's inability to identify with others in his age group was a contributing factor in the expression of pedophilia later in his childhood, adolescence, and on into adulthood.


After the divorce in 1998, Michael Robertson was forced to rely on his oldest son to help with the functioning of the family unit in a single parent household, just as a matter of birth order. Michael Bacolas was given that responsibility as the oldest child to monitor his siblings while the father worked and attended graduate school.
Michael Bacolas Jr. lacked any initiative to help with his family after his mother abandoned him and his family in 1998. The father had difficulties maintaining employment as Michael was mentally absent to monitor his siblings or enforce parenting standards or curfews. 


Children are expected to rebel and misbehave, especially in light of the maternal abandonment and trauma associated with the sexual assault of his youngest sister by his mother's boyfriend.  However, the lack of empathy by Michael Bacolas to the needs of the family caused extreme hardships that had a negative impact on all members of the family.


Michael Bacolas' lack of initiative to "stand up to the plate" and take responsibilities as the oldest child had disastrous outcomes for the family, the father's career, and his graduate school studies (and this lack of initiative had a negative impact on the quality of life and support the father was responsible to provide for all his children).


Between 1998 and 2002, the older boys were chronic shoplifters and burglars, causing countless interactions with law enforcement and security at retail establishments...too many to count. Michael supervised his younger brother burning down a neighbors home, throwing cats off houses, fighting with children and their parents, leaving his sisters unattended and in the care of neighbors, not preparing meals or  helping with chores  (until the father returned from work or graduate school late at night), and violating curfew at all times in his father's absence. 


In 2002, Michael Robertson was forced to withdraw from graduate school as a result of his son's failure to show initiative and properly monitor his younger brother, who severely vandalized a vacant home during the day, causing the family to be evicted from their home of six years and removing the neighborhood support network (who monitored the younger sisters while the father worked and attended graduate school, while the older brothers ran rampant).


According to Erik Erikson (1950),  "If the child is put in an environment where initiation is repressed through criticism and control, he/she will develop a sense of guilt."


The father was highly critical of his son's performance at school and with his family.
Michael Robertson employed authoritative parenting styles with is children prior to and after his divorce in 1998. Due to extreme deviant behaviors exhibited by his sons and the father's inability to enforce Adlearian-Dreikurian parenting, the father (out of necessity) was forced to employ authoritarian parenting styles and run the family like a group home and in accord to authoritarianism techniques employed by Michael Roberson's own father, a former Chief of Police.


https://yourparentingpartner.com/about-me/adlerian-model/


Angry as a parent over the fact that his career goals and graduate studies were hijacked by his eldest son's lack of initiative to work for the betterment of a single parent family, Michael Robertson disparaged his oldest son regularly. Michael Robertson held his oldest son to an extremely high standard, due to his son's intellectual giftedness. 


Although that was a deficit in his parenting, authoritarian parenting gained a level of compliance by Michael Jr. and his brother, allowing the father to actually be able to work and support the family. Michael Bacolas' behavioral health issues were too acute to allow his father to return to graduate school during his son's childhood, but the father did ultimately return to his original career and academic pursuits with his admission to law school in 2020.


Due to all these factors listed, Michael Bacolas did not successfully navigate through the psychosocial crisis of Initiative vs. Guilt, which impacted his ability to address developmental milestones in subsequent Eriksonian stages. 


Michael Bacolas arrested development & early infatuations with pedophilia 


Michael Bacolas inherited severe cognitive retardation from his mother, Julia Bacolas, as well as narcissistic personality traits. These cognitive deficits played a major role in the child's inability to successfully resolve the psychosocial crises of  Trust vs. Mistrust,  Autonomy vs. Shame & Doubt,  and Initiative vs. Guilt. 


Exacerbating his arrested psychosocial development was the emotional detachment and lack of empathy from his maternal caregiving, his mother's neglect of her son and his siblings, and the trauma she exposed him to leading up to the parent's divorce.


Michael Robertson noticed at this point in his son's childhood development that he was showing symptoms of mania. Coming from the behavioral health industry, the father was very resistant to put his son on psychotropic medication (a failure of the father's parenting).  The father followed the school of thought that children were overmedicated in society and that alternative interventions should be employed in behavioral modification. This is one of the greatest failures of Michael Robertson's parenting of his older children.


Michael Jr. was placed on a restrictive diet of no caffeine, no soda, limited sugar intake with no candy, and concentrations of fruits and vegetables. Since the child never identified with his father, obviously he rebelled against this dietary program. To deepen the arrested development that was intensified through consistent mania, Michael Bacolas consumed over the counter stimulants, ginseng, and energy drinks...prohibited by his father, but done anyway out of spite and disrespect to his father's instruction and his own mental health needs.


The father was in denial the children needed psychiatric treatment, when in fact all the children required psychiatric interventions and medication management. Michael Robertson's failure to address these mental health concerns of his offspring created issues, not only for Michael Jr., but for the rest of the children, causing untreated developmental handicaps and the expression of severe mental illness with these children as adults.


During this period of late childhood, Michael Bacolas Jr. began a preoccupation with children much younger than his age group. It was believed he would "grow out of it" as 12 year old boys having sexual imagery and "friendships" with girls as young as eight years old would subside. It never subsided and the arrested development began a life long illness of pedophilia with Michael Bacolas that continues to this day. 


Michael Bacolas unresolved crisis:  Identity vs. Identity Confusion  


Michael Jr. was covertly a pedophile the rest of his childhood and into his adolescence. He hid that disorder very well in order to avoid shame and condemnation from his younger brother and father.


When his son was 18 years old, Michael Robertson and his son Christopher witnessed pedophilic behaviors toward an elementary age school girl, while at a family dinner at his employer's home (a Christian man who employed Michael Bacolas out of his home). Christopher brought attention to the "broom stick' incident and the father had a "talk" with is son about inappropriate behaviors toward children. Shortly thereafter, Michael Jr. came home angry because of a "talk" he had with his employer about the impropriety of sexual thoughts towards little girls. He was replaced and his employment ended out of that man's home afterwards,, as it was believed Michael's employer saw these pedophilic behaviors and needed to protect his own children from a perpetrator.


A year later, while preparing for Michael Bacolas' 19th birthday party, Michael Roberson heard his oldest son crying in his bedroom. Upon inquiry, Michael Jr.. admitted that his cousin (Elizabeth), a friend he had for a time and son of his former employer (Sam Jr.) and his younger brother (Christopher) had found child pornography in Michael Jr's bedroom. Michael was humiliated as the pictures that were found were of naked prepubescent girls, which they graffitied with words such as chomo, pervert, pedophile, etc.


Michael Robertson recognized the crisis at hand, knew that all the party goers at the birthday party would have been told of the pornography, which would have had deleterious effects for the young man's self esteem and reputation with his peers. Later is was learned that all his sons acquaintances already knew Michael Jr. "liked little girls", which is another reason he had very few friends. The acquaintances the adolescent did associate with was predominantly his little brother's friends and peers.
The father had to act swift and fast, as the birthday party was an hour before party goers were to arrive. 


Michael Robertson, a retired counselor at this time, as acutely aware that is oldest son was still in the psychosocial stage of Erik Erikson's development, referred to as Identity vs. Confusion. Although there is no known cure for pedophilia in men, the father hoped that Michael Jr.'s personality was not foreclosed as a pedophile, and that his son was merely in a state of identity confusion.


https://courses.lumenlearning.com/suny-lifespandevelopment/chapter/erikson-identity-vs-role-confusion/


Michael Sr. contacted his personal assistant at the business he owned at the time, who called a 20 year old girl that was known by the father and his staff. That evening, Michael Jr. had relations with an adult woman and all the party goers celebrated the fact that the boy was "normal." Later Michael Robertson was criticized by his son as an example of "bad parenting" for the hook up with an adult female, but in retrospect, any father would have matched their 19 year old son with an adult woman upon learning of a preoccupation with pedophilia.


After the father's intervention at the birthday party, his son began dating adult women and it was believed the pedophilia was a phase the young man was going through.
Unfortunately, this did not cure his son of this disorder or put him on the right psychosexual path, as later in his early adulthood, his wife, Leandra Bacolas, found child pornography on his computer countless times. 


In the beginning of Leandra Stenbak's discoveries of the pedophilia, the younger son (Christopher) took the blame for the prepubescent imagery on the computer browser and files, but subsequent discoveries by Leandra Bacolas outed her new husband as the pedophile everyone knew Michael Jr. to be.


https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/leandra-bacolas-a-hard-working-single-mother-of-2


Michael Jr. was so addicted to child pornography that he was using his wife's laptop to view this inappropriate imagery, another marker of a narcissistic personality.


Michael Bacolas promised his father, wife, and brother that he would begin counseling and get psychiatric treatment to deal with his pedophilia, but that never occurred to his father's knowledge, nor was he put on aversion medications to treat those symptoms. Another failure in parenting was Michael Robertson's absorption in his new family with his second marriage and the demands of his business, so the father did not follow up on treatment for this disorder.


The pedophilia was a constant source of contention in Michael Jr.'s marriage with Leandra May Stenbak, it was a repeated theme of behavior and he was continuously being caught by his wife with these materials. Subsequently, Leandra Bacolas divorced Michael Jr., changed her name back to Leandra Stenbak and took their two common daughters with her, assumed to protect her young daughters from a known pedophile with narcissistic personality traits. 


Michael Robertson reflects on the trials and tribulations of Leandra Stenbak marriage to Michael Bacolas Jr...."I have a great deal of respect for Leandra to stand up for the safety of her children. Leandra Stenbak is a successful massage therapist and is now a single parent. I have nothing but praise and admiration for that courageous young woman!"

Michael Bacolas

Michael Bacolas psychosexual development

Michael Bacolas psychosexual development

 Sigmund Freud believed that personality developed through a series of childhood stages in which the pleasure-seeking energies of the id become focused on certain erogenous areas. An erogenous zone is characterized as an area of the body that is particularly sensitive to stimulation.


https://www.healthline.com/health/psychosexual-stages


During the five psychosexual stages, which are the oral, anal, phallic, latent, and genital stages, the erogenous zone associated with each stage serves as a source of pleasure.


The psychosexual energy, or libido, was described as the driving force behind behavior.


Psychoanalytic theory suggested that personality is mostly established by the age of five. Early experiences play a large role in personality development and continue to influence behavior later in life.


Each stage of development is marked by conflicts that can help build growth or stifle development, depending upon how they are resolved. If these psychosexual stages are completed successfully, a healthy personality is the result.


If certain issues are not resolved at the appropriate stage, fixations can occur. A fixation is a persistent focus on an earlier psychosexual stage. Until this conflict is resolved, the individual will remain "stuck" in this stage and their personality development arrested.


https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/psychologists/what-is-fixation-psychology-definition-and-the-evolution-of-perspectives/ 


Castration Anxiety Defined 


Castration anxiety is a psychoanalytic concept introduced by Sigmund Freud to describe a boy’s fear of loss of or damage to the genital organ as punishment for incestuous wishes toward the mother and murderous fantasies toward the rival father. The anxiety is validated by the boy’s discovery of the anatomical difference between the sexes. 


Castration anxiety was first mentioned by Freud  (1909) in connection with the Oedipus complex and his discovery of the sexual theories of children, as in the case of Little Hans, a 5-year-old boy with a phobia that he would be bitten by a horse. Freud (1917) indicated that castration is not merely a boy’s fantasy, but is intensified by environmental factors such as parents or nannies threatening to cut off his penis or offending hand at the time of his early masturbation.


There is an assumption that the Oedipus complex is resolved when the young boy identifies with his father and gives up the notion that he may become intimate with his mother. There are many studies that look at the effects of the absence of the father on the child's development. However, there are no studies that determine this resolution if the father is unavailable to them. Mary Leichty, of Michigan State University, hypothesized then, "that if the father is not available to play his role at this time (during the development of the Oedipus complex), there will be inadequate resolution of the conflict."


This hypothesis suggests that the young boy could potentially be left in a vulnerable stage where he still believes that becoming intimate with his mother is an option.
The young boy, in Freud's belief, would suffer from an underdeveloped superego and would essentially make for a less moral human being.


https://www.britannica.com/science/superego


He believed that these mechanisms would lead to partner preferences matching the same-sex parent. Freud also believed that failing to successfully resolve the Oedipus or Electra complex could lead to a host of "problems" in adulthood, like neurosis, pedophilia,


https://www.jstor.org/stable/3812437 


Michael Bacolas castration anxiety & fixation with pedophilia 


Freud’s theory of the Oedipus complex was based on the belief that young children experienced an unconscious desire for their opposite-sex parent. It was considered a necessary part of the phallic stage of psychosexual development (between three to five years of age), and Freud believed it could lead to pedophilia if not resolved in time. The Oedipus complex was taken as the ‘physical reproduction of patriarchy’, and as leading to the different sexual roles in our society today (Yadav, 2018).


https://thepsychologist.bps.org.uk/volume-31/june-2018/freud-and-penis-envy-failure-courage


Michael Bacolas was born with cognitive impairments and developmental retardation, coupled with severe language delays. As a child he failed, of no fault of his own, to resolve the developmental crises in his psychosocial development. These factors, along with an extremely psychologically unhealthy relationship with his mother (a hereditary conveyer of these mental deficits and author of the environment necessary for the expression of these genetic traits of severe mental illness) led to an unresolved Oedipus complex and psychosexual fixations that contributed to the expression of his pedophilia in Michael's adulthood. The pedophelia became a constant source of conflict with his wife, Leandra Stenbak, who eventually divorced Michael Bacolas and left with her two daughters.


https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/dcs-lisa-millett-joelle-higby-expose-family-to-pedophile


https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/722300/ 


Michael Bacolas unresolved Oedipus Complex   


Freud’s theory of the Oedipus complex was based on the belief that young children experienced an unconscious desire for their opposite-sex parent. It was considered a necessary part of the phallic stage of psychosexual development (between three to five years of age), and Freud believed it could lead to pedophilia if not resolved in time. The Oedipus complex was taken as the ‘physical reproduction of patriarchy’, and as leading to the different sexual roles in our society today (Yadav, 2018). 


https://thepsychologist.bps.org.uk/volume-31/june-2018/freud-and-penis-envy-failure-courage 


Michael's Bacolas' retarded cognitive, developmental, language, and psychosocial development laid the groundwork for arrested development in his psychosexual development as well. The relationship with his mother, Julie Bacolas, created a psychosexual relationship and aversive environment necessary for the potential for this genotype to become realized.


https://michaelbacolas.com/psychosexual


Julia Bacolas has a narcissistic personality disorder, a lifetime of crystal meth amphetamine addiction, participated in a family unit with her husband and offspring that she did not want, neglected her children and exposed them to abuse, and throughout the marriage, disparaged Michaël Robertson openly in front of the children due to these aforementioned reasons and her narcissistic malicious envy.


https://psychcentral.com/blog/recovering-narcissist/2019/07/5-attitudes-including-malicious-envy-expose-malignant-narcissists-according-to-research#1


According to Sigmund Freud's psychosexual model, a child's unresolved Oedipus complex leads, according to the oedipal theory, to increased neuroticism, letting people experience more and stronger negative feelings, such as jealousy and envy as directly resulting from Oedipal complexes. If the complex is resolved and the child moves onto other stages of development, they will have healthy sexual relationships as an adult. If the complex is not resolved, problems will arise. A boy with an unresolved Oedipus complex may experience anger toward other boys, those that resemble the father. 


Michael Bacolas lacked the cognitive and social constructs as a child to resolve the issues with the Oedipus complex. His arrested development did not provide the child with self esteem constructs necessary to identify and bond with his father. As the oldest child, he was witnessed to, and modeled, the disparagement and disrespect his mother displayed toward his father, verbally and non verbally. Michael never identified with his father due to these issues and the environment his mother created during childhood. Consequently, Michael Jr. became fixated on pedophilia as a result of not resolving this necessary psychosexual stage of development, which later contributed to the hereditary expression of narcissism and constant conflict with his father into his adulthood, and a source of constant conflict with his wife, Leandra Stenbak.


According to Freud's psychosexual model of child development, an unresolved Oedipus complex has the potential to cause pedophilia and neurosis in males (Freud, 1899 as cited by Haiyan et al., 2016). 


https://www.researchgate.net/publication/332441449_The_Role_of_the_Oedipus_Complex_on_the_Perceived_Romantic_Security_of_Males 

Michael Bacolas

Michael Bacolas Narcissistic Pedophilia

Havelock Ellis Narcissism

Havelock Ellis was a British essayist and physician who first identified narcissism as a mental disorder (1898). It is one of the three dark triadic personality traits (the others being psychopathy, and Machiavellianism).


Narcissism is characterized by an inflated self-image and addiction to fantasy, by an unusual coolness and composure shaken only when the narcissistic confidence is threatened, and by the tendency to take others for granted or to exploit them. The disorder is named for the mythological figure Narcissus, who fell in love with his own reflection. According to Sigmund Freud, narcissism is a normal stage in child development, but it is considered a disorder when it occurs after puberty.


Pedophilia does represent a narcissistic object choice, since the pedophile sees the child as a mirror image of himself as a child. Narcissism results from the oedipal fixation, where the pedophile identifies with his mother and sees himself in the child. pedophiles are also considered to be weak and helpless individuals because their choice of children as sexual objects pose less resistance or create less anxiety than adult partners, thereby allowing pedophiles to avoid castration anxiety. In clinical practice, many pedophiles are found to suffer from a narcissistic character pathology, including psychopathic variants of narcissistic personality disorder. Sexual activity with prepubescent children can underpin the pedophile’s fragile self-esteem. 


https://www.peertechzpublications.com/articles/OJPCH-5-126.php 


Julia Bacolas provided the genes and environment for expression of narcissism 


Julia Bacolas conveyed the genetic disposition and created an early childhood environment for the expression of narcissism with Michael Bacolas Jr. The mother's empathetic detachment and apathy toward parenting coalesced with Michael's cognitive and developmental disabilities to produce a pedophilic adult, at no fault of his own. Michael Bacolas was a tragic victim of circumstance based on hereditary, developmental, and environmental factors.


His mother, a student of psychology, fostered non paternal identification with his father during his psychosexual development, leading to an unresolved Oedipus complex in Michael's childhood, causing pedophilia. Narcissist parents thrive on turning children against their non narcissist counterparts.  The innocent or targeted parent receives hostility and rejection from his or her children in this system. The psychological health of the children is used as arsenal in the narcissists twisted world. 


https://psychcentral.com/pro/recovery-expert/2016/06/children-with-narcissistic-parental-alienation-syndrome#1


Julie Bacolas abandoned Michael and his siblings during divorce proceedings while her boyfriend was being investigated for the sexual molestation of his little sister by the Glendale Police Department in 1998. Normally, families who experience such trauma heal and go on to create a semblance of a normal life. These events did not destroy the family unit, but the narcissistic personality spectrum exhibited by Michael Jr. and his siblings was the destructive force that did ultimately destroyed the family, and most likely destroyed his family and marriage with Leandra Stenbak.


https://michaelbacolas.com/julia-bacolas 


Michael Bacolas devoid of empathy and narcissistic maladaptive behaviors 


The narcissistic personality was expressed with Michael's addiction to pedophilia and lack of empathy towards his father's struggle as a single parent of a family of abuse survivors.


Deviant childhood behavior is expected with children of maternal neglect and abuse. In normal families, children rebel and go through periods of deviant behaviors as a part of growing up. The maladaptive behavior patterns expressed by Michael Jr. was so destructive in nature that it interfered with his father's abilities to work and support the family, as well as his ability to continue with graduate school for the economic benefit and prosperity of the family.


Michael refused to take the initiative as the eldest son to help manage and maintain a healthy family for him and his siblings. The adolescent was involved, participated in, and promoted maladaptive behaviors that included burning houses down in the neighborhood, throwing cats and animals off rooftops, continuous fighting with neighborhood children and their parents, shoplifting and burglaries on what seemed like a daily basis, and vandalism of a neighbors house which caused the family to be evicted from their home of six years.


For years, the father pleaded with Michael Bacolas and his brother to halt the maladaptive and antisocial behaviors as it interfered with his ability to work and support the family. As a narcissist, Michael Jr. lacked the empathy as a son to care about the needs of his father or family. The deviance continued unabated, and the father missed work excessively due to required disciplinary conferences at the elementary school, a continuous onslaught of interactions with law enforcement, and unanticipated departures from the father's workplace to retrieve Michael Jr. and his brother from security personnel at retail establishments for chronic theft and shoplifting. These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, which is the hallmark of criminal pedophiles: lack of remorse and empathy for others and towards one's family.


https://www.ojp.gov/ncjrs/virtual-library/abstracts/exploring-levels-moral-development-among-sex-offenders


Michael Bacolas' behavior patterns was indicative of low moral development and character. The cognitive deficits from early childhood and his arrested psychosocial and psychosexual development lead to an arrest of his moral development, with an underdeveloped Freudian superego of an adolescent who did not advance past stage one of Kohlberg's Stages of Moral Development. Individuals lacking the physiological constructs in the brain responsible for empathy oftentimes have arrested moral development.


https://www.simplypsychology.org/psyche.html


Michael Bacolas narcissistic lack of empathy and deficient moral development are markers of a pedophiliac personality and was reflected in his behaviors throughout his adolescence and early adulthood. These traits were evident upon his mother's return in 2009 and his acceptance of her malignant brainwashing and manipulations concerning her maternal abuse and abandonment, his burgeoning of a Stockholm Syndrome towards his mother after years of abuse and neglect (promulgated in part through non identification with his father and an unresolved Oedipus complex), his participation as a flying money for his narcissist mother's intent to rebuild her reputation with his siblings and family after years of estrangement, and his pandering of his 17 year old little sister for a sexual relationship (childhood survivor of childhood sexual abuse) to an adult man in his 30s in exchange for a handgun.


https://michaelbacolas.com/kohlberg-stages


Furthermore, Michael Robertson could not own or possess a firearm while parenting Michael Bacolas, due to his son's narcissistic rage, especially towards his own brother. It is normal in any family dynamic for siblings to fight. Malignant narcissists who have their ego's threatened revert to homicidal behavior to protect their delusional grandiosity and fragile self esteem (Elise, 2015).


https://trace.tennessee.edu/utk_graddiss/2087/


Christoher Bacolas worried about his safety after fights with his older brother. Michael Jr., being a weak child and adolescent, would retaliate against his brother's physical dominance with knives, baseball bats, weapons, rocks, broomsticks, whatever blunt objects available to cause gross bodily harm (narcissistic lack of empathy and concern for one's own sibling). One notable fight between Michael Jr. and his younger brother ended with Christopher's arm almost severing, causing emergency care in the trauma unit at Phoenix Children's Hospital in 2005.


Individuals with a pathological degree of narcissism have a psychological disconnect between an unconscious sense of inadequacy and a conscious feeling of superiority. They think they are better than everyone else, but this belief is fragile. These individuals are more vulnerable to any events (interpersonal rejection, negative feedback, criticism) that might threaten their exaggerated view of themselves and, as a result, are more likely to react with anger and hostility to any perceived or real challenge to their ego.


According to  Joni E. Johnston, Psy.D (2019), personalities exhibiting narcissistic rage become angry or violent in situations we might predict given their constant need to protect themselves from any hint of criticism or rejection, i.e., in response to threats to their ego or self-esteem, typically when demands of entitlement, admiration and perceived authority were not met. 


Facing loss, the threat to his or her grandiose sense of self-worth is overwhelming and, without the motivation or the ability to handle these situations calmly, she/he may launch into an uncontrollable rage. At the moment, explosive narcissistic rage can be completely unprovoked and unprecedented. 


https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-human-equation/201907/narcissism-rage-and-murder 


Michael Bacolas: The overt narcissist & covert narcissist pedophile 


Researcher and author Craig Malkin, PhD suggests that the term "covert" can be misleading. In his work he states that the term covert is often used to suggest that the covert narcissist is sneaky or that their strive for importance is not as significant as an overt (more extroverted) narcissist. In fact, he reports, the traits of the overt narcissist and the covert narcissist are the same. Both covert and overt narcissists navigate the world with a sense of self-importance and fantasizing about success and grandeur.

The covert narcissist will be much more likely to constantly seek reassurance about their talents, skills, and accomplishments, looking for others to feed that same need for self-importance.  The introverted, covert narcissist may have a more gentle approach to explain why something is your fault and they are not to blame. They might even pretend to be a victim of your behavior or engage in emotional abuse to put themselves in a position to receive reassurance and praise. 


In early adulthood, Michael and his siblings lived in their father's home. Christopher, his younger brother, reported extreme embarrassment when Michael Jr. met people in the community, as his older sibling would disparage his father to these new acquaintances. Michael Jr. bad mouthed his father to people he met, as a covert narcissist to obtain sympathy for his perceived character flaws (so their delusional beliefs of superiority is not challenged). 


People with covert narcissism appear to be modest, they believe that they are superior to other people. As a result, they avoid situations or tasks that challenge this sense of superiority. Michael's male persona communicates pedophilia (screams it), low self esteem, and feelings of inferiority (based on unresolved crises in psychosocial development). By projecting negative paternal relationship issues with people he met on first encounters, he employed a psychological defense mechanism to protect any challenges with other males on his covert narcissistic superiority: "If I'm not a man like you, it's my father's fault, don't punk me."


Covert narcissists can take joy in creating confusion for someone they are interacting with.  Remembering that they are always focused on staying elevated to maintain their sense of self-importance, it is easy to understand how a covert narcissist would find it difficult to compliment you. There is usually little regard for your talents or abilities—usually, the narcissist has no regard for these things at all.  Although the covert is more likely to appear emotionally accessible, it tends to be a performance and usually done with intent to exploit or eventually leave the person feeling small through disregard, blaming, or shaming.  The hallmark traits of narcissistic personality disorder is lack of empathy.


https://www.healthline.com/health/covert-narcissist


His father tried counseling Michael Jr. and attempted to employ cognitive behavioral techniques to remedy these host of issues. Michael Robertson's attempts at intervention was met with disrespect (unresolved Oedipus complex), disregard, disparagement, belittling the father's credentials and behavioral health background, denying his own character defects, and blaming his father for his issues.  Covert narcissists have a belief in their own superiority, and narcissists fixated in the psychosocial stage of development believe they are superior to their own fathers (Oedipus complex).


Covert narcissists abhor honesty, which is a threat they seek to discredit  They have contempt for responsibility, which they avoid and deflect onto others. These personalities are incapable of normal expressions of love and empathy, which they do not feel but use as a weapon against others who do.  They abhor accuracy, which threatens their self-protective distortions of reality, and are enemies of truth, which they fear more than anything and work continuously to deny, dismiss, defile, and deform.


https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/2017/11/17/the-narcissists-disrespect-envy-and-contempt/


When the children were kidnapped from his father's care, Julie Bacolas stole his computer and all files representing years of the father's research on the children's cognitive development: Michael Robertson's masters thesis. 


Upon the children's return after the court granted the father custody, Michael Jr. and his brother told their father that the roommate had carried those files to Julie's car on the day of the kidnapping. This caused a fight with Michael Robertson and his best friend and animosity that lasted 23 years. In 2020, after a series of lies and narcissistic smears from a maternal menticide....a common trait of narcissists (lying), Michael Robertson finally believed his friend....the man was not a party to the theft of Michael Robertson's research and master's thesis.


Michael Bacolas Jr. and his brother maintained that lie for 23 years, having their father believe that his best friend had participated in the theft of his masters degree research, when it was the boys wo did the heavy lifting that day.  The boys had a close relationship with that man...he was good to the Bacolas children and treated them with respect and concern. To promulgate a lie about an empathetic "family member"  and maintain that lie for 23 years shows gross moral character, and is indicative of arrested childhood moral development and narcissistic personality disorder.


https://michaelbacolas.com/kohlberg-stages


The low moral character and lack of remorse are other traits Michael Bacolas Jr. exhibited, which is common with narcissists suffering from preoccupations with pedophilia (a sense of grandiosity, akin to delusional feelings of superiority).


https://jenniferbacolas.com/jennifer-bacolas/f/michael-bacolas-children-at-risk-in-the-community-mike-bacolas


Michael Jr. would ramble on to his father regarding delusional ideas and fantasies he believed real. The father, having an empirical mind, tried teaching his son to "quote sources"  and to think and rationalize using the scientific method, attempting to challenge the delusional and unrealistic thinking patterns and possibly help his son become a more normal thinker and respected. Those attempts were in vain as grandiosity and fantasy were already hard wired into Michael Bacolas' brain from birth, a chemistry of the brain, hereditary endowed from his mother, a hallmark trait  associated with his narcissism.


https://amandabacolas.com/amanda-bacolas/f/michael-bacolas-his-npd-infectious-machiavellian-malignancies


Narcists, especially one's in the pedophilic spectrum, use lies and gossip to damage the character of the non narcissist family member that fuels his narcissistic supply. Their goal is to run smear campaigns against the empath, in order to deflect their own character defects, so their delusional sense of superiority is not challenged.


https://amandabacolas.com/amanda-bacolas/f/personal-trainer-coach-michael-bacolas


"His lies are purposeful and directly about you and your character. Sometimes believable lies because of the portions of truth mixed in. The flaws that all people have. Or your insecurities. Not only does he make sure everyone knows these lies, he actually runs to them first to direct their view before you’re able to.Where there is a smear campaign, you trying to defend yourself and speak the truth already looks like lies. Everyone already believes that you do nothing but speak badly about this nice and charming guy, who’s done nothing wrong. It must all be you. That’s what he wants them to believe (Grice, 2021)."


https://jengrice.com/narcissists-turn-everyone-against-you-even-your-own-family/


Michael Jr. projected gossip and slander about his father at the onset of the menticide that was perpetrated by Julie Bacolas on her severely mentally ill children in 2009 (and continues to this day). Not just acquaintances, coworkers, employees at the father's place of business, neighbors, and literally people on the street...anyone Michael Bacolas would meet, he would project lies, falsehoods, and embellishment of the truth, in order to mitigate any defects people would see in Michael's persona (hiding behind a façade that he was an abused child to deflect his own pedophilia and insecurities of non maleness).


https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-personal-trainer


In 2016, Michael Robertson made contact with his long lost son, Jordan Alexie, in Anchorage, Alaska. Michael Jr. immediately began the disparagement and gossip to his reunited brother, as narcissists thrive on destroying all friendships and family relationships with the empath non narcissist. Michael Robertson does not have a relationship with his son, Jordan, after that smear campaign. 


https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/there-will-be-no-reconciliation-with-your-fathe
Michael Jr. started dating, and eventually married, Leandra Bacolas (Leandra Stenbak). Michael Robertson did not want him dating the girl. Whatever the reason, it is not uncommon for the parents to not like a new girlfriend.  Most children, normal ones, would never tell a potential wife that his parents did not like her. Michael Bacolas did, because he's a narcissist, and seeks sympathy from everyone. Narcissists have an overwhelming need to turn everyone against the non narcissist empath, even if that means destroying future family relationships  with one's new wife. One of Michael Robertson's biggest regrets is that he did not have a relationship with his daughter in law, Leandra Bacolas (Leandra Stenbak). Michael Robertson has never met his granddaughters, children of Leandra May Stenbak, due to grandparent alienation by his narcissist son, Michael Bacolas.


https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/leandra-bacolas-a-hard-working-single-mother-of-2


Michael Robertson's parenting was over as Michael Jr. became an adult and identified with his mother and her malignant lifestyle and beliefs. One of the last conversations the father had with his son was regarding Michael Jr.'s ideas to write a book about his life. The father tried to explain that for a book to be written about one's life, something phenomenal and amazing needs to have happened or accomplished for people to want to read about another's life. 


https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/dcs-lisa-millett-joelle-higby-expose-family-to-pedophile


Michael did not achieve any career, academic, relationship success in his life. Tragedies to people around him, but not to him. Nonetheless, Michael Bacolas' delusions of grandeur and the fantasy world he lived fed a delusional belief that he could write a Pulitzer winning novel about his life...a life of non fulfillment, non actualization, and of no particular consequence (delusions of grandeur).


The last correspondence his father received was a 20 page "rant" his son  sent priority mail, as grandiose and peculiar statements were always challenged by Michael Robertson as invalid when babbled by his son in person ("quote your sources"). Not wanting his narcissistic ideals of superiority challenged, Michael Jr. sent his father a rant in writing. Michael Robertson did not read the ravings of an arrested developed narcissist living in an alternate reality, nor was he motivated to do so. The father gave the document to his younger son, Christopher, to return as unread.


Questionable death of grandson at the hands of narcissists.


In 2007, Michael Bacolas approached is father laughing that his brother and girlfriend, wanted to pay him to assist in terminating a pregnancy.


This was confirmed by other family members and friends of the adolescent children at the time. The couple had approached friends in Phoenix who shared concern and shock they were trying to terminate the pregnancy by ill means.


Michael Robertson learned of a pregnancy with his youngest son and her girlfriend in 2007. He made plans to adopt the child at birth and raise the baby as his own, being the man's grandson. After attempts were made by the adolescents to terminate the unborn grandson of Michael Robertson, he counselled his son and her girlfriend and assured them they would be alright and not bogged down with the responsibility of raising an unwanted child. Michael Robertson wanted that child and loved the baby before it was even born.


On July 28, 2007, Michael Robertson's son and girlfriend entered his bedroom in the evening and disclosed there was "something wrong" and both adolescents had the look of guilt upon their demeanor. Michael Robertson knew what happened, but repressed the narcissistic abuse for the mental health of the adolescent children. They had done something to rupture the embryotic sack and the girl had broke her water. His grandson was 23 weeks in gestation when this event happened.


The girl's mother came to his home in Surprise, Arizona, and took her daughter to Phoenix Baptist Hospital. Being an immigrant family from Russia, they were not informed or had knowledge that Phoenix Baptist did not have a prenatal neo natal unit for premature child birth.


Michael Robertson was frantically trying to get the girl transferred to Saint Joseph's Hospital in Phoenix, which has one of the top neo natal units in the country. Phoenix Baptist would not authorize the transfer as there would have been a high risk that the girl would go into delivery during the transfer. Staff at Saint Joseph's directed the father, off the record, to put the girl in a car and drive her to their neo natal unit. The girl's mother objected.


On August 4, 2007, Nickolas Bacolas was born premature and died at birth.


https://www.legacy.com/us/obituaries/azcentral/name/nickolas-bacolas-obituary?pid=93286344


Michael Robertson paid for the funeral and conducted all ceremonies for his "baby"... his first grandchild, who died at childbirth, from his son, Christopher Bacolas, and girlfriend who were actively seeking to terminate  the pregnancy, in league with their brother, Michael Bacolas, to accomplish that goal.  


https://juliebacolas.com/christopher-bacolas


Michael Bacolas Jr.: Children & familes at risk in community 


Michael Robetson, this subject's father, was very aversive to put up the content of this website. He contacted Michael Jr.'s mother, sister, and family members explaining the necessity for his son to receive treatment for his lifelong preoccupation to pedophilia. The father is extremely concerned regarding the safety of his minor sons and the unfettered contact of an untreated pedophile.


There is no cure for pedophilia, but there are treatment options. The father has done extensive research on the subject matter in response to the fact that his family has been assaulted by perpetrators with this disease of the mind: Michael Robertson's niece was assaulted in Anchorage, Alaska by a pedophile in 1992; his youngest daughter was molested her mother's boyfriend, while in her mother's care in 1998; and, in 2009, the stepdaughter from Michael Robertson's second marriage was brutally raped while in the care of her biological father in Mesa, Arizona (Phillip Menting is serving a 35 year prison sentence in the state of Arizona for that crime). In a sick twist of fate, due to cognitive factors, narcissistic hereditary dispositions inherited from the mother, and environmental and developmental deficits present in his childhood, the father's oldest son, by all definitions of the word, is a pedophile.


Apparently one can be hit my lightning more than once, and in the assaults of pedophiles against Michael Robertson's family, lightning struck that man four times.


While Michael Robertson was out of the home in 2018, his two minor children were removed from from his second wife's care. An older daughter has custody of those children and Michael Bacolas Jr. has unfettered access. Lisa Millett of the Arizona Department of Child Safety was notified to restrict access of this known pedophile, but those warnings went ignored (email correspondence to Lisa Millett at DCS  of father's duty to report as a behavioral health provider will be shared upon request). 


Furthermore, Michael Bacolas Jr. has access to his own two minor daughters and families in the community associated with his employment at Valley Environmental Resources in Phoenix, Arizona. Michael Robertson would be negligent if a child is harmed as a result of inaction by DCS and  also by not reporting this pedophile to the community at large. 


Non negotiable terms for the removal of this website from the internet 


Michael Robertson is willing to remove this website from the internet, alerting the community of a known pedophile, in accordance of his duty to report, as outlined in  ARS §13-3620  and ignored by the Arizona Department of Child Safety, Lisa Millett case manager, and Joelle Higby, DCS Supervisor. The following terms are non negotiable and required to remove this content online:


1. Michael Bacolas Jr. will begin weekly psychiatric visits with a provider of his father's choosing to treat his pedophilia, and such treatment will be lifelong.


2. Michael Bacolas Jr. will immediately begin taking medication to treat his pedophilia, prescribed by the provider selected by his father, such as degarelix, with random urine analysis to validate compliance with the treatment plan.


3. Michael Bacolas Jr. is barred from ever seeing or having contact with Michael Robertson's minor children.


4. Michael Bacolas Jr. shall only have supervised contact with his own minor daughters, presently in the custody of his ex wife. Any overnight visits will be supervised by his sister, Amanda Bacolas, who is required to sleep with the minor children if overnight visits are appropriate.


5. Michael Bacolas Jr.'s employer shall have no contact with children of other employees and customers they serve in the community.


6. Michael Bacolas Jr.'s father shall monitor all devices used in the home and at his employment and will utilize a blacklist of websites that will be blocked with pedophilic content and imagery, as well as search terms barred seeking such content online.


7. Michael Bacolas Jr. will submit to random and unannounced inspections of his residence and computer and electronic storage devices for pedophilic content, with the support of local law enforcement as a standby for safety concerns.


8. Michael Bacolas Jr. will limit and avoid all contact in the community where he poses a risk to families and children.


9. Michael Bacolas Jr. will sign an binding agreement with his father outlining these requirements for the content of this website to be removed from the internet. These terms are non negotiable. 


The subject of this content may contact the author and his attorney will prepare documents for notary signature and filing.


 

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Michael Bacolas

Michael Bacolas Michael Bacolas Jr Michael Bacolas

Michael Bacolas

Michael Bacolas' Father 30 Year Survivor of Malignant Narcissist Abuse

Michael Robertson never saw himself as a victim. The narcissistic abuse he survived was covert and overt, and lasted 30 years. The abuse actually started in 1986 with his marriage and relationship with Julie Bacolas. He was not aware he was stepping into a doorway of intense Machiavellian destruction of his life and psyche, which totally hijacked his future.


 

Michael Robertson duped into marriage under narcissistic false pretenses


Michael Robertson met Julie Bacolas when he was 22 years old, in Anchorage, Alaska. They met while employed as managers in the culinary industry and had a brief relationship. Some time after they ended their relationship, Julie came to Michael Robertson's home and disclosed a pregnancy. He married Julie in her first trimester of pregnancy.  


The marriage was a farce as it was learned years later that Julia Bacolas was involved in a romantic relationship with a married man by the name of Dave Berry, which she continued until while married to Michael Robertson until their relocation to Phoenix, Arizona, in 1990.


Julie had absolutely no love for Michael Robertson and only married him due to the pregnancy of their oldest son, Michael Bacolas Jr. Dave Berry would not leave his own wife and children for a relationship with Julia Bacolas. That became a source of disdain and hate Julia had towards her husband, which became a source of narcissistic supply that destroyed the marriage, created maternal neglect and abuse for their common children, and a life of mental illness and dysfunction of their offspring that impacted their adult lives with severe mental illness.


https://michaelbacolas.com/julia-bacolas

Michael Bacolas' maternal narcissist abuse of her husband with daughter's molestation by boyfriend

Tragedy struck Michael Robertson with the continuation of narcissist abuse when his wife's boyfriend, Ed Stoffers, in 1998 sexually molested their youngest daughter while under her mother's care (as validated through CPS records, the Glendale Police Department in Arizona, and audio tape sessions with trauma counselor Rochelle Silverman (evidentiary documents available upon request). Consequently, Michael Robertson was made the custodial parent of Jennifer and her siblings and the mother, Julia Bacolas (aka Julie Stoffers, aka Julie Allor) fled Phoenix and the joint custody of her common children to protect Edward Stoffers from questioning and the eventual prosecution for this assault.  


https://jenniferbacolas.com/

Michael Robertson's continued narcissistic abuse from Michael Bacolas and malignant genotype

Michael Robertson was tasked with rebuilding a family, destroyed by malignant narcissist Julie Bacolas' abuse, neglect, and abandonment of the family.


Deviant childhood behavior is expected with children of maternal neglect and abuse. In normal families, children rebel and go through periods of deviant behaviors as a part of growing up. The maladaptive behavior patterns expressed by Michael Jr. was so destructive in nature that it interfered with his father's abilities to work and support the family, as well as his ability to continue with graduate school for the economic benefit and prosperity of the family.


Michael refused to take the initiative as the eldest son to help manage and maintain a healthy family for him and his siblings. The adolescent was involved, participated in, and promoted maladaptive behaviors that included burning houses down in the neighborhood, throwing cats and animals off rooftops, continuous fighting with neighborhood children and their parents, shoplifting and burglaries on what seemed like a daily basis, and vandalism of a neighbors house which caused the family to be evicted from their home of six years.


For years, the father pleaded with Michael Bacolas and his brother to halt the maladaptive and antisocial behaviors as it interfered with his ability to work and support the family. As a narcissist, Michael Jr. lacked the empathy as a son to care about the needs of his father or family. The deviance continued unabated, and the father missed work excessively due to required disciplinary conferences at the elementary school, a continuous onslaught of interactions with law enforcement, and unanticipated departures from the father's workplace to retrieve Michael Jr. and his brother from security personnel at retail establishments for chronic theft and shoplifting. These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, which is the hallmark of criminal pedophiles: lack of remorse and empathy for others and towards one's family.


https://www.ojp.gov/ncjrs/virtual-library/abstracts/exploring-levels-moral-development-among-sex-offenders

Cognitive Abnormalities in Michael Bacolas' brain and siblings are markers of malignant narcissism

Michael Bacolas early childhood screenings indicates brain abnormalities which are markers for malignant narcissism.


In the study published in the Journal of Psychiatric Research, a team of German researchers used modern brain scanning technology to examine the brain structure of 34 volunteers. Half of these volunteers had diagnosed cases of narcissistic personality disorder, while the other half did not. The part of the brain examined during the study was the cerebral cortex, the outer brain layer that regulates most of the functions that we associate with core human characteristics such as self-awareness, self-determination and self-control. One particular part of the cerebral cortex acts as the seat for empathy, the common term for the human ability to identify with others on both emotional and logical levels. After reviewing the results of their examination, the authors of the study concluded that, when compared to people unaffected by NPD, people with the disorder have unusual cerebral cortex thinness in the region responsible for empathy production. They also concluded that the degree of lost empathy in NPD patients matches up with the degree of thinness present in the abnormal cerebral cortex area. 


https://www.recoveryranch.com/addiction-blog/brain-abnormalities-found-in-narcissists/


Michael Bacolas jr was the first child to be identified with cognitive and developmental retardation. Two of his other siblings were also screened through the Washington School District at three years old with severe developmental, language, and cognitive deficits (cognitive test results available upon request). 


The measurements used to determine these disabilities were the Cognitive Abilities Test and later, the Wechsler Intelligence Scale for Children.


Michael's siblings, Amanda and Jennifer Bacolas, had global test scores showing extreme developmental delays and cognitive intelligence IQ scores that indicated borderline mentally retardation (1991 - 1996 test results from Special Needs Programs at Manzanita Elementary School and the Washington School District will be produced upon request).


Michael Bacolas' test scores were reflective of an IQ of mental retardation. His siblings cognitive deficits were more profound.  Amanda Bacolas suffered the greatest deficits....globally the child scored 3 1/2 to 4 1/2 standard deviations below the "mean" on these cognitive tests, with an IQ reflective of a child with mental retardation (IQ scores below 70).


These cognitive and developmental issues with the Bacolas children altered the educational and career path for Michael Robertson, away from pre-law undergraduate studies leading to a career in law with a Juris Doctor degree, to an education in developmental psychology and graduate coursework in counseling and childhood cognitive development.


https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr

You know the rest of the story...

https://michaelbacolas.com/julia-bacolas

Michael Robertson unaware of Michael Bacolas NPD

Father was unaware of link between brain abnormalities and Narcissistic Personality Disorder in 1991

Michael Robertson noticed his son, Michael Bacolas Jr. was different as a child.


His speech was way off and for his age and he didn't seem to be like other children. Michael Bacolas was not speaking and interacting like children his own age, and that concerned his father.


Not knowing his son, Michael Bacolas, was suffering from major cognitive dysfunction, his father had him screened at the Washington School District due to concerns regarding his language delay. His son Michael could barely speak, and when Michael Bacolas did talk, it was garbled and not understandable.


Michael Bacolas was screened for language delay at Manzanita Elementary School in Phoenix, Arizona, in 1991, through the Washington School District's special needs program. Michael's father had him screened for language delay.


His son was given the Cognitive Abilities Test (CogAT), which is a global assessment for children's cognitive, language, and intellectual development.


https://childpsychologist.com.au/service/assessments/cognitive-assessments-iq-testing/


Michael Bacolas early childhood screening assessed the following areas:


  • Verbal Comprehension: the ability to use a range of vocabulary to understand and express general knowledge and explain concepts
  • Visual Spatial: the ability to evaluate visual details and understand visual spatial relationships
  • Fluid Reasoning: the ability to use conceptual information from visual details and apply that knowledge
  • Working Memory: the ability to learn, manipulate and retain information to complete new tasks
  • Processing Speed: the ability to quickly process and make judgements about visual information


Michael Robertson shared concerns with the special needs specialists at Manzanita Elementary School. It was explained the instrument to be used was the Cognitive Abilities Test, with the goal of testing to identify the following developmental concerns of Michael Bacolas:


 

  • Diagnosing learning difficulties or disabilities in children: a cognitive assessment in conjunction with an educational assessment can assist in identifying the presence of a learning difficulty or disorder in children and to help teachers make appropriate accommodations for students in the classroom. This information can be used to manage and minimize negative experiences at school such as poor academic results, school avoidance and low self-esteem.


  • Intellectual difficulty or disability: an assessment will assist in identifying children with an intellectual disability, which is characterized by an IQ test score at least 2 standard deviations below the mean (this often equates to an IQ score of 70). Following an assessment, children and parents will have a better understanding around how an intellectual disability impacts the child’s ability to learn. 


https://testingforkindergarten.com/practice/cogat


After the testing was administered, a conference was called with Michael Bacolas' father and the school psychologist who administered the test.


Michael Bacolas test scores on global cognitive functioning was grotesquely anemic and he had scored 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 standard deviations below the mean for cognitive functioning and intelligence. Michael Bacolas was screened, and identified, as a child with severe cognitive deficits, gross language delay, and failure to reach developmental milestones compared to peers in his age group. His intelligence test scores were indicative of cognitive retardation, and comparatively, had the IQ of a child suffering from mental retardation.


Later is was identified these cognitive disabilities discovered with Michael Bacolas are indicative of brain abnormalities found with individuals suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), a malignant personality and cognitive disorder shared by Jeffrey Dahmer and Ted Bundy.


Alexandria Mae Jones (2019) identified the link between these cognitive test measurements and the brain abnormalities of NPD diagnosis, which was discovered in 1991 during Michael Bacolas childhood screenings at Manzanita Elementary School.


https://www.ctvnews.ca/sci-tech/new-study-suggests-narcissists-have-weaker-cognitive-abilities-than-they-think-1.4576649


The personality traits of the most malignant diagnosis of NPD was identified with Michael's mother, Julia Bacolas, and a hereditary determinant of this disorder was expressed with Michael Bacolas and his siblings.


Michael Bacolas Jr.'s psychosocial and psychosexual development was severely arrested as a result of these inherited cognitive deficiencies, and he later developed into an adult with full expression of NPD, with a dual diagnosis of pedophilia.


Michael's siblings, having the hereditary disposition of NPD from their mother, Julie Bacolas, also was identified in early childhood screenings at the Washington School District, also testing 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 standard deviations below the mean on the Cognitive Abilities Test, with severe cognitive deficits and intelligence scores comparable to children with mental retardation.


https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/christopher-bacolas-prime-exposure-advertising


Michael's brother, Christopher Bacolas, has an adult diagnosis of schizoaffective disorder and on the spectrum for malignant NPD: his younger sister, Jennifer Bacolas, has an adult diagnosis of bipolar with psychotic features and NPD with malignant expressions of Machiavellianism, and his other sister, who was screened with the most severe brain abnormalities, scoring as low as 4 1/2 standard deviations below the mean, has a diagnosis of malignant covert NPD.


https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/2798202/


Michael Robertson returned to the behavioral health fiend in 2021 and currently works as a counselor for adult's who are survivors of narcissistic abuse.

Michael Bacolas

Michael Bacolas NPD Pedophilia

Michael Bacolas Jr cognitive markers for malignant NPD

Leandra Stenbak also changed her name away from pedophile

Leandra Bacolas

Leandra May Stenbak: the innocent victim of NPD pedophilia

Michael Bacolas Jr met Leandra Stenbak when they were children attending the same school together in Phoenix, Arizona, at Manzanita Elementary School. They never dated as children in the sixth grade, assumingly due to Michael's preoccupation with girls much younger than their age group.


Since they were children in the same grade level and classrooms during their childhood, Leandra Stenbak was aware that Michael Bacolas was receiving special education services for the cognitive deficiencies and developmental delays that is now known to be the neurological markers for narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and the expression of narcissistic pedophilia she witnessed in his adulthood.


Leandra Stenbak and Michael Bacolas left Manzanita Elementary School, they parted ways. After high school and the promptings for his son to start dating women, and the discovery of pedophilia by his father on his 19th birthday, Michael began courting Leandra May Stenbak.


Initially, Michael Robertson was opposed to his son dating Leandra, as she was part of the life the  family left behind after Julia Bacolas abandoned the family in 1998. Not knowing his older children had the dual diagnosis of NPD, he believed the maladaptive and antisocial behaviors exhibited by his children were due to the environment of the neighborhood and home they resided at after the divorce and abandonment by Julie Bacolas. Michael's father viewed any relations from that neighborhood as a step backwards.


That was a gross error on the part of Michael Robertson. Leandra Stenbak turned out to be a strong woman, an excellent mother, and a professional who worked hard in the support of her children in a very difficult family situation. Michael Robertson did not have a close relationship with is daughter-in-law due to the disparagement of his character to his son's new wife. Michael Bacolas Jr told his new wife that his father did not like her and didn't want him dating her, as part of a smear campaign, common with individuals diagnosed with NPD. 


https://jenniferbacolas.com/jennifer-bacolas/f/jordan-alexi-alaska-victim-of-narcissist-smear-campaign


Covert pedophile narcissists do turn family members against one another, in part to diffuse relationships in order to keep their covert pedophilia unknown. Michael Jr. did the same slander against his father's long lost son, Jordan Alexi, as narcissists thrive on destroying family relationships.


https://queenbeeing.com/5-ways-narcissists-destroy-their-families/


Leandra May Stenbak was oblivious to her husband's pedophilia, until her discovery of prepubescent child pornography on her laptop computer. Narcissist pedophiles are known to have low moral conscious, even using the electronic devices of their innocent wives to feed their dysfunction.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FI6C-p9_uik


Throughout the history of the marriage, Leandra Stenbak battled her husband's grotesque addiction to pedophilia and his sexual fantasies of relationships with children. Enough was enough, and Leandra May Stenbak stood up to her husbands mental abuse, divorced Michael Bacolas Jr, left with her daughters, and changed her name from Leandra Bacolas, back to Leandra Stenbak, assumed to distance her reputation away from her pedophile husband and his eventuality of perpetrating on an innocent child and registering as a sex offender in the community.


Michael Robertson is very concerned about his daughter-in-law and his granddaughters. Leandra Stenbak-Bacolas divorced her husband in 2019, but it is unknown if her predator ex husband has contact with their common children. It is assumed his son has visitation with the girls, but Michael Robertson has extreme anxiety over his family's safety, since his son's preoccupation is with children of that age group, Michael Robertson is very concerned about their safety. Michael Bacolas Jr is not a registered sex offender for his narcissistic pedophilia and sexual addiction to child pornography, so it is unknown if he has perpetrated on his own, or other children. Those children need counseling services to ascertain if the father's pedophilia was exposed to Mr. Robertson's grandchildren. Pedophiles always end up perpetrating on children, which is why they are required to register as sex offenders for the offence of child pornography.


Michael Robertson returned to the field of mental health counseling in 2021, serving adult survivors of narcissistic abuse. Since Leandra Stenbak was traumatized by years of exposure of her husband's pedophilia and child pornography, and hiding these malignancies from her daughters for their protection, Leandra Stenbak is a victim of narcissistic abuse and in need of counseling to heal from the years of abuse of exposing herself, and her daughters, to a narcissist pedophile.


Leandra Stenbak is a survivor of narcissistic abuse by a NPD pedophile, and is currently a hard working single mother of two beautiful daughters, employed as a Licensed Massage Therapist, LMT, employed at Desert Sage Bodywork in Phoenix, Arizona.


https://www.facebook.com/leandra.lmt

https://desertsagebodywork.com/about


https://amandabacolas.com/amanda-bacolas/f/michael-bacolas-his-npd-infectious-machiavellian-malignancies

Leandra Stenbak: narcissistic abuse survivor of pedophilia

Leandra Bacolas' psychological consequences of marriage to a pedophile

Leandra's self esteem destroyed by her marriage to a predator. Narcissists feed off those feelings of guilt.

Cognitive dissonance led to Leandra Stenbak's decision to stay in marriage!

Ex wives experience guilt for staying with a known pedophile after the marriage terminates. Leandra Stenbak needs counseling to overcome issues of her narcissistic abuse so she can heal!

"Michael row your boat ashore, hallelujah

Sister help to trim the sail, hallelujah

Michael row your boat ashore, hallelujah

The River Jordan is chilly and cold, hallelujah
Chills the body, but not the soul, hallelujah

Michael row your boat ashore, hallelujah!"

Drug counselors only need a high school diploma in Arizona

Michael Allen Bacolas

Julie Bacolas pathology & sociopathy

Julie Bacolas aka Julie Ann Bacolas, Julia Bacolas, Julia Ann Bacolas, Julie Allor, Julie Stoffers, Counselor at Community Medical Services in Kingman, Arizona. 


Julie Bacolas is employed as a counselor at Community Medical Services in Kingman, Arizona. The employment of this individual by Community Medical Services greatly endangers the patients this woman comes into contact with as well as the standing of this clinic within the community.

I was married to Julie Bacolas from 1987 until 2000. We were both attending graduate school for our Masters in Professional Counseling, with the goal of receiving our doctoral degrees and practicing together and serving the community. These were my goals, rather.


Although Julia Bacolas earned her degree degree requirements of a Masters in Counseling, Chapman University would not grant her the degree or credentialise her due to the character defects listed in this website. She now works as a drug counselor in Kingman, Arizona. Degree requirements for her position: high school diploma.


Between 1994 and 1998, Julie suffered from an extreme addiction to crystal meth amphetamines. She refused treatment for her addiction and the latter years leading to our divorce. We have four common children together.


During this time, I was receiving mental health services, as one of the requirements to actually become a counselor. Potential counselors are to receive mental health services to be able to serve their population of clients. Based on the trauma and tragedy which was my first marriage, it was endorsed that I receive these services as well. During my divorce proceedings, my mental health records were submitted to the Superior Court in Arizona, showing the trauma of being married to a malignant sociopathic narcissist and drug addict, who prostituted herself to support her drug use while we were both struggling students attending college. I also had case workers from my mental health clinic testify at those proceedings in 1998 in support of my divorce. Julie Bacolas’ previous abandonment of our common children was also documented and supported by these records as well as other documentary evidence. 


Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT (2017)  identifies the abuse that is experienced by a non-narcist parent from a malignant narcissist sociopath:


"Many of the narcissist’s coping mechanisms are abusive–hence the term, “narcissistic abuse.” However, someone can be abusive, but not be a narcissist. Addicts and people with other mental illnesses such antisocial personality disorder can also be abusive. Abuse is abuse, no matter what the abuser’s diagnosis."


"Someone with more narcissistic traits who behaves in a malicious,  hostile manner is considered to have “malignant narcissism.” Malignant  narcissists aren’t bothered by guilt. They can be sadistic and take pleasure in inflicting pain. They can be so competitive and unprincipled  that they engage in anti-social behavior. Paranoia puts them in a defensive-attack mode as a means of self-protection."


"Malignant narcissism can resemble sociopathy. Sociopaths have  malformed or damaged brains. They display narcissistic traits, but not  all narcissists are sociopathic.  Their motivations differ. Whereas narcissists prop up an ideal persona  to be admired, sociopaths change who they are in order to achieve their self-serving agenda. They need to win at all costs and think nothing of  breaking social norms and laws. They don’t attach to people as  narcissists do. Narcissists don’t want to be abandoned. They depend on  others’ approval, but sociopaths can easily walk away from relationships  that don’t serve them. Although some narcissists will occasionally plot  to obtain their objectives, they’re usually more reactive than  sociopaths, who coldly calculate their plans."


https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201709/how-spot-narcissistic-abuse


In April, 1998, Julie Bacolas kidnapped our four common children from my care. I received emergency temporary custody shortly thereafter, and on subsequent hearings before the Superior Court, I was named the “custodial parent” based on many factors. Approximately a month after I was named as the custodial parent, our youngest daughter, began exhibiting behaviors odd and sexual in nature, which was uncommon for our youngest child, age seven at the time these behaviors surfaced.


Upon open ended questioning before witnesses, this little girl could only utter one sentence through her tears, “Don’t be mad at Ed.” Julie Bacolas’ boyfriend at the time was Edward Troy Stoffers. Later during my divorce proceedings to bar my first wife from visitation, a witness came forward to claimed Edward Troy Stoffers had admitted to accusations of sexual abuse against his own daughter by his own ex-wife. The interview with the youngest daughter was open ended before the adult roomate and the two older chioldren, so four witnesses were present.


During this divorce, I hired Colonel John T. Tavernaro as an investigator regarding my ex-wife’s boyfriend, Edward Troy Stoffers. Col. Tavernaro was a former Colonel for the military police in Vietnam, in charge of military police in Saigon prior to the fall of the country into the hands of the communists in 1975. Col. Tavernaro was responsible for relocating over 7,000 vietnamese refugees in Arizona after the Vietnam War, and was awarded an honorary doctoral degree from Arizona State University in 1999. Col. Tavernaro worked on my case “pro bono” due to the heinous circumstances of my divorce and what happened to my children, specifically, the abuse disclosed by my youngest daughter.

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At a hearing to terminate Julie Bacolas’ visitation rights with our common children in 1998, Col. Tavernaro found, during a deep investigation, that Edward Troy Stoffers was an escapee from a minimum security holding facility in the state of California. Relevant to accusations regarding the allegations in 1998 that Ed Stoffers admitted were made against him by his ex-wife and daughter, as well as my efforts to end visitations with my first wife to stop contact with my children and this presumed predator.


https://juliebacolas.com/ed-stoffers


After it was suspected that my youngest daughter, may have been a victim of sexual abuse by the hands of my first wife’s boyfriend, I contacted the Phoenix Police, but was referred to the Glendale Police Department, as that is where the crime may have occurred and it was that department’s jurisdiction.


The youngest daughter was interviewed by the detectives at the Glendale Police Department in Arizona, but was too scared to talk to them. A physical examination did not disclose any penetration. A marriage and family counselor was retained to treat the child, so she would feel safe with any disclosures of what happened to her. The counselor is Rochelle Silverman who at last contact in 2009, lives and practices counseling in Miami, Florida. In 1998, Julie Bacolas declined to exercise her rights under joint custody to request a second psychological opinion regarding the child's allegations against her boyfriend, Ed Stoffers


Loree Beniuk & Pearl Rimer (2006) explains why the detectives at the Glendale Police Department referred the father to a marriage and family therapist, to give the victim comfort about discussing the abuse by Ed Stoffers to the police in their investigation:


"Some children tell as soon as they have been abused, however, many children do not. Often children wait to tell for an indefinite period of time. Some children are too young to understand that what happened to them was wrong and may not know to tell. Young children who are not yet speaking and children with special needs may not be able to communicate what happened, or indicate that they need help. A child may not be able to clearly disclose what happened because young children do not understand time, have difficulty explaining the order of how things happened,and are still developing their memory skills. Sometimes, children think they have told and no one is listening (e.g., “I don’t want to go to Uncle John’sanymore.”)."


"Young children are more likely to accidentally disclose.You may suspect that something happened to your child based on: • things you see or hear during play; • changes in his/her behavior; • overhearing something s/he tells a friend; or• questions/comments that express specific fears or worries.Youth are more likely to purposefully disclose by talking about the abuse or by asking for help. Some youth may begin by telling a little and watching how the listener reacts. Over time, once s/he feels believed, safe and supported, s/he may tell more."


https://childdevelop.ca/sites/default/files/files/Understanding-Child-Sexual-Abuse.pdf


Approximately five weeks into counseling in 1998, on audio tape, the youngest child opened up to Ms. Silverman and explained in great detail the circumstances regarding the sexual abuse she experienced at the hands of perpetrator Ed Stoffers. The goal of counseling was for the child not to be scared to speak up about her abuse to the detective at the Glendale Police Department and to Child Protective Services. My youngest daughter was detailed in her descriptions of the abuse and the audio tapes were presented and are on file with the then Child Protective Services in Arizona, as well as the detective assigned to the case with the Glendale Police Department. 


When the detective went to the last known address of Julie Bacolas and Edward Troy Stoffers, the house was vacant. The visitation with Julie Bacolas and our common children was never terminated, nor our joint custody. The only sanctions imposed by the Superior Court that she was to keep our common children away from the accused perpetrator during visitations with our children, Edward Troy Stoffers. To reiterate, it is of great importance that the reader understands that the court granted me, the father, custodial parenting of our common children and that joint custody remained between myself and Julie Bacolas. It was only after I was given custody of our common children that the allegations of abuse arose regarding Ed Stoffers, and only then, visitation was the issue going forward in my divorce with Mrs. Bacolas.


According to Leena Nesir (2020):


 "Not only does the narcissistic mother fail to protect us early on from the terrors of the outside world, she becomes the source of our terror." 


https://www.moms.com/how-a-son-develops-when-hes-raised-by-a-narcissistic-mother/


After my first wife and Ed Stoffers fled Arizona, presumably to avoid prosecution regarding child abuse to my youngest daughter, the detective at the Glendale Police Department, as well as Col. John T. Tavernaro, attempted to locate Julie and Ed, but they couldn’t be found. I was later told by both of the before mentioned parties that Edward Troy Stoffers was the type of person who lives on the “fringes” of society, putting homes, utilities, etc. In other people’s names to avoid being located by the authorities based on his past. Several years later, Julie was found working at a striptease club in Texas, called “Civil West” and that was the first contact I had with her since abandoning her rights to joint custody and visitation with our common children. 


The child repressed the incident and forgot she had been a victim of abuse. This is common for victims of trauma and a defense mechanism. I was alright that my daughter repressed her reported abuse while she was growing up, knowing that later in life she would have to deal with the trauma at some point and the failings of her own mother for exposing her to such abuse.


Todd .Corelli, Matthew J. Hoag, and Robert J. Howell, PhD  (1997) published an essay addressing repression with childhood sexual abuse victims:


"Some therapists maintain that traumatic experiences during childhood,  such as CSA, are often  repressed because they are too difficult to assimilate into one's experience. It is claimed that the  repressed memory manifests through the current psychological symptoms the person is experiencing. Some even assert that psychological treatment for other disorders will not be  effective  until the sexual abuse is addressed. Thus. for the person to completely heal. this abuse must be remembered and "worked through." Claridge suggests that  the  traumatic  experience must be remembered and integrated into the patient's self." 


http://jaapl.org/content/jaapl/25/1/31.full.pdf


It was extremely hard for me to raise these children as a single parent. I had to work and tried to attend graduate school while parenting and that combination did not work out with the survivors of this divorce and trauma. I ended up having to withdraw from graduate school to work and care for my children.


One of my greatest failings as a single parent was not to identify and treat the symptoms of trauma these children were exhibiting from their antisocial and delinquent behavior. With my daughter's repression of the abuse and trauma, her and her older sister grew up under my care with no behavioral issues during early childhood. My two older boys, however, exhibited extreme behaviors stemming from my divorce and and the abuse and neglect from their mother. I was in denial, not providing these boys with the mental health services they needed. I convinced myself that my boys were not victims, but rather gifted children with an absent mother, unstimulated because of the poverty associated with being raised by a single parent.


In the public court system, a mother who was neglectful and eventually abandons her children contributes to juvenile delinquency, and a study was conducted regarding mothers who work outside the home. Thus, maternal influence is very important to the moral development and the expression of delinquency in young boys, according to Justin T. Pickett (2016):


"Juvenile justice reformers and practitioners have long blamed mothers for juvenile delinquency."


"Juvenile justice reformers and practitioners, as well as early scholars  of child development, primarily tasked mothers rather than fathers with  the responsibility of rearing law-abiding children (Grubb & Lazerson, 1988; Odem, 1995).  Over the course of the 19th century, the belief that child rearing was a  woman’s central task in life gained wide popularity (Degler, 1980), and women were elevated “to the status of the unchallenged custodians of the moral development of children” (Kett, 1977,  p. 114). The principle was that “women served as guardians of morality  against the dangers of the street and the competition of the  marketplace” (Feld, 1999,  p. 32). In turn, delinquency constituted evidence that the child’s  mother, either because of her absence from the home or her reliance on  ineffective child-rearing methods, had failed to provide the necessary  moral regimen (Hoffman & Vander Ven, 2007; Kasinsky, 1994)." 


https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1557085115624759


My older boys became chronic shoplifters, burglars, burned houses down to the ground, accused of mistreating cats and animals, roamed the streets at night while I worked, leaving their little sisters unattended, and getting the family evicted from their family home of six years due to vandalism of another home owned by the property management company we rented from at the time. My failing as a parent was not to provide these boys with mental health services, convincing myself that their behaviors were the result of a lack of stimulation of gifted children.


The delinquent behaviors following the divorce is from the trauma of the emotional and physical abandonment  Jbyulie Bacolas of her children. Judith Mishne (2020) explains:


"One has ample room to speculate on the overriding character disturbance of the parent who literally or emotionally abandons his or her child, and we can postulate a spectrum of severe disturbances that include psychosis, borderline syndrome and pathological narcissism. Kernberg (1975) describes chronically cold parental figures with covert but intense aggression as a very frequent feature of the background of these patients."


"Despite superficial functioning, the interaction with the child has a high degree of callousness, indifference, and non-verbalized spiteful aggression which results in intense oral frustration, resentment and aggression developing in the child, who needs to defend against extreme envy and hatred (Kernberg, 1975). Kohut (1971) includes the absence or unavailability of the parent or parents in the early life of the child as creating narcissistic injury and fixation. Events in the early life of a child, such as the absence of a parent, or loss of a parent through death, divorce, hospitalization, or withdrawal because of emotional illness, contribute to the narcissistic fixation in a negative sense. The decisive repression of the archaic, idealized parent image (or other modes of its inaccessibility, e.g., through a vertical split in the psyche) may take place after the external disappearance of the parent."


"The abandoned child, due to pathological divorce proceedings and/or total surrender, i.e., into foster placement, seems far less empathic, more grandiose and self invested than the children who have lost a parent through death. Anna Freud describes her work with separated but not abandoned children during wartime, and states that displacements of affect from the loser to the lost becomes still more obvious when the lost object is a human one. There were many occasions to observe those who experienced not their own very real separation distress, but the imagined distress, loneliness, and longing of the parents whom they had left be-hind. "I have to telephone my Mummy, she will feel so lonely," was a frequent wish, expressed especially in the evening (A. Freud, 1969). This empathy with self and/or object appears completely absent in the aban-child. Further, the remnants of the internalized object representation acquire the characteristics of real but rather lifeless shadowy people (Kernberg, 1970). The shadow of the absent but existent parent appears to stimulate great idealization by children who have experienced being given up, ignored, and emotionally put aside." 


https://projectlifeline.us/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/Parental-Abandonment.pdf


In 2005, Julie made a brief contact with the family again at our home, unannounced in Phoenix. That same year corresponds to my second oldest son's first mental breakdown and admission to St. Luke’s behavioral unit that same year. This child was a witness to the abuse by Julia and Ed Stoffers, testifying that she had kicked him down as a child, he was witness to obscene sexual behavior between Julie and Ed Stoffers, and was very hurt as a child for his mother’s abandonment of him and his siblings. 


Julie came again unannounced into the children’s life the following year, and my oldest son who will remain unmentioned began showing signs of pedophilia in response to his childhood trauma regarding his mother.

 

My youngest daughter repressed the incidents with Ed Stoffers, as well as the audio tape disclosures to Rochelle Silverman during counseling. She grew up to be a fine young girl, involved in track and field, very athletic, a member of the acting club in high school, an extremely high GPA and an honors student, and a devout member of the Church of Jesus Christ, of Latter Day Saints. That all changed in 2009.


Three of the older children began experiencing severe mental health symptoms as a result of the reintroduction of Julie into their lives and her resulting menticide.  Francesco Dentale (2015) explains research indicating malignant pathological narcissist parents may cause mental health issues in their offspring:


"Both paternal and maternal narcissism are significantly correlated with parental rearing dimensions as well as with depression and anxiety of the young adult children in the expected  direction.  At the same time, PBI scales and children’s depression and anxiety were significantly correlated with the expected  pattern.  Importantly,  paternal and maternal  path analyses  showed that the effect of parental narcissism was mediated by the parental rearing style with significant sum an indirect effects both on depression and anxiety. These results are compatible  with a generally assumed  mediation  model,  mentioned in the introduction  (Laulik, Chou, Browne, & Allamb, 2013 for a review), that posits parental pathological traits, quality of parenting behaviours and children’s mental health indices as predictors, mediators  and  criteria  respectively."


https://www.ijpsy.com/volumen15/num3/420/relationship-between-parental-narcissism-EN.pdf


In 2008, Julie came back into our family’s life and asked me if she could see her now teenage children, so she could re-establish a relationship with her family and begin a healing. I happily complied as I found it in everyone’s best interest that we all put the past behind us and go forward, for the sake and psychological health of our common children. Although my second wife protested, I allowed Julie to stay at our new home in Surprise, Arizona, to rebuild her relationship as their mother. I paid for multiple resort stays for her to have alone time with our common children. I wanted a complete healing and I forgave my ex-wife for all her failings as a mother and was very happy she wanted to be part of her children’s life. This was the biggest mistake of my life, allowing that woman back in, and I’ve paid dearly for that mistake, which has damaged me beyond belief. Nicole Smith (2020) explains:


"A narcissistic parent is a system gone wrong. Instead of a parent  putting the needs of the children before their own, the child is groomed  to take care of the needs of the narcissist parent. This creates a  toxic bond that can have long-term consequences.."


"Narcissistic parents often view their children as an extension of themselves and try to control or manipulate them into being who they want them to be."


"The level of manipulation, brainwashing, demoralizing, and self-esteem destruction that a narcissistic parent  inflicts upon a child is sadistic."


https://www.survivedivorce.com/co-parenting-narcissist


In 2009, I noticed my oldest son and youngest daughter began acting extremely disrespectfully and combative toward me. I was complaining to my eldest daughter, who disclosed to me regarding a “family meeting” Julie had with her and her siblings. She was embarrassed to disclose the subject matter of this meeting to me, as to protect me. Noticeably absent was my second oldest son, who had testified to Child Protective Services regarding the abuse and neglect of his mother in 1998. According to what my daughter disclosed, Julie Bacolas told our common children that I had fabricated the sexual molestation of Ed Stoffers in order to obtain custody of our common children. Julie told the children she feared me as an abusive person, which is why she deserted the children for nine years. As pare of Julie Bacolas' menticide with intent, she gaslighted her children and their memories. Gaslighting is common with narcissist parents, and is explained by  Amy Launder (2020):


"Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgement." 


https://theawarenesscentre.com/narcissistic-parent/


At this time, my oldest son was showing signs of a preoccupation with pedophilia, which is a matter of fact with his family and peers. Up until this point, my youngest daughter had repressed all issues regarding her abuse at the hands of perpetrator, Ed Stoffers, and was a very functional child. My oldest daughter had no signs of mental illness at this time, but my second oldest son had been in and out of mental institutions, triggered by his mother’s return to the scene. Narcissist mothers like Julie Bacolas triggers a myriad of mental health issues with their children, which  is outlined by Annabelle Psychology (2020):


"Such experiences can be detrimental to the mental health of children of narcissistic parents, with the following characteristics commonly observed:


"Children of narcissistic parents, especially younger ones, rarely have coherent principles of their own. As they can be at the receiving end of negative consequences from demonstration of independence or identity, they tend to orient their values around those that their parents endorse."


"It can be nerve-wrecking to be raised by narcissistic parents, it’s as if you are constantly walking on eggshells for fear of setting them off. Moreover, it can feel like a challenge trying to earn their love and validation—which unfortunately, is rarely attainable."


"Children may become overly responsible to fill the void left by their narcissistic parents, leading to a role reversal where they act as parents to their narcissistic parents and/or siblings."


"Children of narcissistic parents often believe that they are unworthy of love and affection,and that they have to be earned."


"In the long term, these children may experience profound and lasting consequence. They may adopt the following beliefs that can have significant impact on various aspects of their lives:

“I’m a burden. If I want to be loved, I need to ask nothing from others.”


"Some children of narcissistic parents become echoists, or someone who fears appearing narcissistic in any way. They may make themselves appear as ‘small’ as they possibly can. Due to a lifetime of dismissing their own needs and wants in place of that of their narcissistic parent, they may become unusually afraid of becoming a burden to others and may struggle to find a voice or be independent. Often, they may become compulsive caretakers and even be more likely to form relationships with narcissists".


“If only I were quieter, if only I were more obedient, maybe my mother would love me.”

Being unable to simply walk out and leave their family, children of narcissist parents try to cultivate a sense of hope in their childhood by telling themselves that once they “fix themselves”, their parent will love them. This also creates an illusion of control they are able to hold on to. Unfortunately, this pattern of thinking also leads to chronic self-blame, deprecation and guilt.

“Why won’t you pay attention to me!”


"Attachment styles are basically the way in which we interact and behave in relationships with others, characterized by how safe/ comfortable we feel and how we depend on others. We usually develop our attachment style based on our early attachments with our caregivers. People who had emotionally healthy childhoods typically develop a secure attachment style whereas children who grew up with neglect, emotional abuse and absence—such as that of narcissistic parenting—usually develop an insecure attachment style. This may manifest in two ways; due to fear of abandonment or constantly questioning the safety of the relationship, children of narcissists may choose to shut other people out. On the other hand, they may chase love and connection from the wrong people or in unhealthy ways such as becoming extremely needy or demanding love and attention angrily."


https://www.annabellepsychology.com/narcissistic-personality-disorder


I approached the children about the family meeting Julie had with them. I contacted my daughter's counselor at the time of the abuse in 1998, Rochelle Silverman, who lived and had a practice in Miami, Florida, in 2009. My oldest son and youngest daughter (repressed childhood abuse) believed their mother over me and I tried to get these children on the phone with Ms. Silverman, but both children refused. My youngest daughter refused to speak with her former counselor due to her mother's extreme menticide. Rochelle offered to come to Phoenix for family counseling to heal the family, but my oldest son and my daughter refused to participate. Julie Bacolas did not exercise her right, under joint custody in 1998, to request a second counselor treat and interview her youngest daughter . In 2009, Julie bacolas did not have a psychologist present for her "intervention", nor at any follow up family meetings where the alternate reality was panned to her severely mentally ill children, as such a menticide and the mother's agenda is in gross violation of the ACA Code of Ethics and no professional would participate or sign off on memory replacement therapy by a sociopath..


https://juliebacolas.com/menticide


Julie Bacolas had told my oldest son atrocious and false statements about me and why we divorced. Bizarre things that I cannot and will not repeat here. Disgusting and grotesque. None of what Julie told my oldest son was true. I tried to rationalize with my oldest son, that Julie did not bring such foul accusations against me during our divorce proceedings in 1998, during our highly contentious divorce and custody matters. I tried rationalizing with my son that if her allegations were not contrived and true, she surely would have asserted these things before the judge. None of the perverse and defamatory remarks about me made to my older son was alleged in my 1998 divorce and custody, because they were false and made up by Julie after the fact, to divert blame for her conduct as a mother and her resulting abandonment of our common children. I could not rationalize this with a severely mentally ill young man. He was angry that his mother was not a part of his life while he was growing up and now blamed me for her absence, keeping his mother away from him and his siblings.


This smear campaign is a text book example of the method Julie Bacolas used to execute her menticide on her adult children. Peg Streep (2020) explains these traits of disparagement and spreading non truths about the reputation of the non-narcissist parent:


"She spread rumors about me to family members, my neighbors, and even got in touch with my boss. My boss had no idea who she was, by the way,  but that didn’t matter to Mom. Lies, and more lies. She told people I’d stolen from her, that she’d stopped speaking to me because I was  violent, that I abused my kids. She actually wanted to call social  services on me but, thankfully, someone talked her out of it. Or so I  heard. It was all unreal and over the top.” 


One of the more interesting observations offered up by Joseph Burgo in his book The Narcissist You Know is that the narcissist is so committed to his “truth” that his lies may not be conscious. Yes, re-read that sentence and let it sink in. Winning is all for the narcissist, as is never taking responsibility when things go south; while they are always the heroic protagonists when things go right, they loudly declare their victimhood—no matter how  unlikely—when things go wrong or have the potential to embarrass them. 


"The smear campaign is born out of a combination of factors, including the need to be right and have his or her “truth” become the prevailing script, retaining status and standing (making sure that his or her inner hidden shame doesn’t become public), and maintaining control of his or her image." 


https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201906/dealing-the-narcissists-smear-campaign


After this family meeting when the defamation of my character of me as a man and a parent began, my highly successful teenage daughter began showing characteristics of sociopathy, promiscuity, and bipolar traits with psychotic features. Almost overnight, my youngest daughter changed from a happy and adjusted teenager, to a girl who I had to call the police on several occasions for inappropriate relations with adult men. She began using drugs. She began gaining weight and for the first time in her life, developing into an obese young woman. My youngest daughter had a pregnancy out of wedlock. During her pregnancy, she concocted a story to a fine African American young man by the name of Marcus Moore, that he was the father of her child. Only in my daughter's eighth month of pregnancy did she disclose to me that Marcus was not the father of her baby, but "a white boy who had no money, no job, and no future." 


I implored her to disclose to Marcus Moore that he was not the father, she agreed to me to be truthful with Mr. Moore, but carried on the lie when the child was born Caucasian with blonde hair and blue eyes, telling this unknowing man that the child had these traits because I had blonde hair and blue eyes, as well as his own mother. Six months after the child’s birth, Marcus was approached at a party by the biological father, who admitted the fraud committed by my daughter regarding the paternity of this child. Although Marcus knew the child was not his, he continued to father the child until her mental illness and sociopathy killed their relationship. Marcus now lives in Pennsylvania and still laments about this child, who he calls his son. I have never met a more moral of finer young man than Marcus Moore.


Due  trauma of the neglect while Julie was a parent, the sexual molestation by her boyfriend, the nine year abandonment, the returning menticide on her children's memories, and the physiological predisposition based on brain chemistry due to severe developmental delays in earlychildhood, Julie basically created a narcissist with her youngest daughter, and narcissist traits in her other children as well (and the resulting flying monkeys). This dynamic is explained by Shantell Fellows (2018):


"But what is a Female Narcissist? Someone who engages in relational aggression. This is a type of alternative aggression in which harm is caused by damaging someone’s relationships or social status."


"Since female narcissists engage in this type of relational aggression that teenage girls do, they can easily fly under the radar as the “mean girl”– something we all usually assume they will eventually grow out of. Research indicates that girls who use high levels of relational aggression also demonstrate very little empathy and care towards others. This suggests that behaviours like crossing boundaries, gossiping, exclusion and sabotaging relationships; may actually be more common among those with existing narcissistic traits. Unfortunately, society has just passed off this behaviour as ‘bitchy female traits’. This is not the case, and these shadow behaviours are not related to the feminine. I would like to be clear that these are narcissistic characteristics."


"Female narcissists do not “grow out” of their childhood aggression; unfortunately, they evolve into even more effective manipulators in adulthood, using their tactics to serve their selfish agendas and feed their ‘ego’


https://theyesqueen.com/bestlife/2018/12/8/how-to-spot-a-female-narcissist


Psyche Central (2020) explains this type of pathological lying and publishing false narratives by these tye of malignant narcissists:


"Narcissists are the heros (and/or the victims) of their own mental  fairtytale. They live in a False Narrative of their own Fabrication.  This is the foundation of their pathological lying."


"We all have a narrative and an understanding of who we are within that narrative. For example my narrative is that I’m ordinary wife  living very rural and virtually unknown who is a  jack-of-all-trades-but-master-of-none, embraces mediocrity (after years of perfectionism) and will never, ever win a drawing or raffle…ever. And I’m absolutely fine with that. Each  event in life fits into my Narrative. As life goes on, sometimes I  succeed, sometimes I make a boo-boo, but my narrative makes sense. It’s  simple and straight-forward."


"Some narcissists fancy themselves The Perpetual Victims/Martyrs, always drawing the short end of the stick,  always cheated, always abused, always abandoned…through absolutely no  fault of their own."


"Some narcissists fancy themselves The Rescuers, put on this Earth to rescue those unfortunate souls who can’t  reconnoiter their own lives without help from The Rescuers."


"Some narcissists fancy themselves as The Example Setters, modeling for others how to live life exactly as it’s supposed to be lived."


"Some narcissists fancy themselves as The Creditors and everyone owes them…big time!

Oh,  there are a multitude of False Narratives. But in each narrative, the  narcissists is the Star of the show, assured of their own perfection.  This is the set-in-concrete construct in how narcissists understand  themselves, other people and life events."


"Narcissists react dramatically to any hint of wrongdoing or calling-out because even the most minuscule crack in their faade is not an isolated event, easily forgiven and forgotten. No! Their entire False Narrative, their very lives,  are at stake. The House of Cards they’ve carefully constructed shudders  and threatens to fall if they’re caught in even one lie."


"When you start tugging on the loose string of their pathological lying, they’re acutely aware that their entire lives and their very selves may well unravel. That’s why they freak out. Get angry. Attack us with yet more lies. Unleash the flying monkeys. Call us the liars."


"Pull at the loose string of narcissistic pathological lying at your peril. But, sometimes, it’s totally worth it!"


https://www.psychcentral.com/blog/narcissism/2017/07/narcissists-and-pathological-lying


Julie Bacolas did not re-enter the lives of the Bacolas children to repair a lost relationship as their mother and to produce a healing those children needed. Julie’s intent was to repair a family, but to destroy a family. She succeeded in her endeavors, but one family’s destruction was not good enough, as her defamation carried over to 2020 in the destruction of yet a second family.

This woman’s selfishness to not want her children to believe she was with a man who she knew had molested her own daughter, who was previously accused of molesting his own daughter, caused the destruction of a family and the lives of seven people. Julie did not want to be remembered as a mother who abandoned her children and later married a man accused of molesting her own daughter. Julie went on a burnt earth campaign to eliminate the guilt that she wronged her children, which in fact that is exactly what this woman did. Behold the family Julie Bacolas destroyed, as this is a family picture of me and her common children before Julie’s return and destruction of these fine young children’s minds, emotions, and the only relationship with a parent who sacrificed his whole life for them. Behold the happy family Julie Bacolas Destroyed…


The woman in the top left picture is my sister. This picture was taken in 2014 and "a picture says a thogsand words." These happy children's lives began going down hill a year later when Julie Bacolas began reappearing in these adolescents lives.


I lost contact with my oldest son in 2010, as he was convinced that his mother would never abandon him or his sisters, and he believed the inflammatory things his mother said regarding why we divorced. At this point, this adult child had a full epression of pedophelia and  with that, full deverlopment of narcissism in light of his mother's menticide. Sine one cannone appeal to empathy and understanding in a narcisst, since they have no empathy, I appealedd to his logic and the facts of his history.  


Again, I tried rationalizing with this mentally ill young man, that I already had custody of him and his siblings prior to the disclosure of my daughters abuse. That nobody could fabricate anything to a Superior Court judge, and the cards were already stacked against me because I was a man. I tried, unsuccessfully, to remind my older son that I already had custody of him and his siblings before the accusations of abuse against his sister arose. Unfortunately, one cannot rationalize with the severely mentally ill. 


He believed the story that his father fabricated a story before the court in order to obtain custody, although the facts show that his father already had custody and only visitation was pursued to be terminated with his mother. My oldest son believed the atrocious things his mother said regarding why she divorced me, although these absurd things were never mentioned by Julie before the Superior Court, and it was me, not Julie, who actually filed for divorce in 1998. He believed his mother’s false contentions that she deserted her children because she feared of her own safety, although a reasonable person would ask if the father was such a bad man, wouldn’t the mother stay in the children’s lives to ensure their common children were safe and not being harmed by this man she paints as a monster. Again, no rationalizing with the severely mentally ill offspring of a sociopath malignant narcisst.


Julie's menticide of her children's minds utilized the psychological technique of "gaslighting." Karyl McBride Ph.D. (2018) explains this tactic with narcissist parents:


"If you are dealing with a narcissist in your life or grew up with a narcissistic parent, you may have experienced “gaslighting.”  It is a form of verbal and psychological abuse that is insidiously  cruel, with the intention of making a person doubt their own sanity. It  destabilizes you and can make you wonder about your own memory or perception of reality."


"True narcissists are not accountable for their own bad behavior. It  is common for them to blame others and make it someone else’s fault.  They use denial, accusation, misdirection, and lying to throw you off base. You can walk away wondering if it is just your imagination, or if you are sorely mistaken, and it is truly your fault." 


" I’ve talked to many men and women betrayed by partners who say that for  quite some time, they actually thought they were just losing their minds  and being unreasonable. They look back after finding out the truth and  wonder how someone could manipulate them with such conviction and  forceful intent."


"Gaslighting is emotionally abusive and ultimately gives the abuser more power to dominate a relationship.  It can happen gradually, so the victim goes from just thinking they  misread a situation to really believing they must be going crazy. This  can cause long-term damage to a person’s mental health, resulting in  mistrust toward others in general, and can even interfere with their ability to form healthy relationships in the future." 


https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201804/narcissists-use-gaslighting-control-and-abuse

Julie Bacolas Did Not Follow The 12 Step Program!

Julie Bacolas is a mental health Counselor at Community Medical Services in Kingman, Arizona. Her character precludes her ability to properly execute mental health counseling for clients who need addiction counseling, her primary focus at this clinic. One of the 12 steps of the recovery program from drug addiction is to make and amends with people one has harmed during addiction. 


The Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation addresses this subject on their web page:


“One of the telltale symptoms of alcohol or drug addiction is behaving in ways that go against your personal values and standards. That's why the Twelve Step recovery process includes the practice of recognizing how your behavior has harmed others and seeking to repair the mistakes and damage caused during your active addiction."


Furthermore, her gross violation of the ACA Code of Ethics by executing menticide memory replacement, without the collaboration and supervision of other behavioral health professionals, indicates a sociopath who is unfit to discharge her duties as a mental health counselor.


Jule Bacolas is a narcissist parent, and her lack of empathy precluded her from mking an amends to her children for the abanment and the myriad of issues she caused before, during, and after  the divorce with the non-narcissist parent.


"Step Eight and Step Nine of AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) call this approach "making amends":


"Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all."


"Step 9: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.”


"Further, the foundation states the following:


“In Twelve Step recovery from alcohol or other drug addiction, a direct amend refers to the act of personally addressing issues with people who have been harmed by our behavior or our treatment of them as a result of addiction. As outlined in Steps 8 and 9, the practice involves going back to those individuals to acknowledge the harm or hurt we have caused them and demonstrating our changed behaviors in order to provide them with the opportunity to heal. Whenever possible, a direct amend is made face-to-face rather than over the phone or by asking someone else to apologize on your behalf.”


https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/articles/making-amends-addiction-recovery


Julie Bacolas has not made an amends with me or her children for the desertion of the family, her exposure of her daughter to a predator, and her failing to voluntarily provide support of her children and to exercise her joint custody rights between 1998 and 2008 due to her ongoing drug addiction and relationship with Edward Troy Stoffers. 


Julie has instead used her education as a behavioral health professional to manipulate and brainwash our common children to believe knowingly false statements, that affected a dependency I was a party to in 2020, in total disregard for the ADA Code of Ethics which she blatantly violated. For these reasons, the destruction of two families for extremely selfish reasons, Julie Bacolas has unfit character to work in the behavioral health field in any capacity, especially treating populations working the 12 step program for addiction recovery. 


Julie Bacolas met her degree requirements in 1998 for a Master’s degree in Professional Counseling from Chapman University, but was not granted her degree until several years later due to the character defects unbecoming a counselor that the university could not credentialize. A complaint will be filed against Julie Bacolas with the American Counseling Association, as well as recourse against her present employer, for failing to do proper background checks on employees with such unfit character, exposing the clinic and its patients to liability.


Who am I? My name is Michael Robertson. I had a career in behavioral health working for Arizona Baptist Children’s Services, I was a program manager for Community Psychology & Educational Services, I worked through the health care registry as a psychiatric technician at the Maricopa County Psychiatric Annex, and for a brief time, I owned a non profit corporation called, “The Counseling Outreach for Battered Women & Abused Children” and the non profit filing was made in 2004 with the Arizona Corporation Commission.


The destruction of my first family was not the end of Julie Bacolas’ determination to destroy me as a human being, to justify in the eyes of our common children her own deficiencies as a mother. This woman’s burnt earth agenda carried over to a dependency I was a party to in 2020. In compliance with Arizona State Law, as well as the Rules of Juvenile Court in Arizona, I cannot share the names of my children from my second marriage who were the subjects of this dependency. I cannot reference their names, the case number, or the dates of these incidents. Nor would I. These little boys have gone through enough trauma and as their father I refuse to publish their names to be a party to what can only be called a freak show. Community Medical Services employs such a person in Arizona.


In April, 2018, I was about to leave my second wife, who will not be named for issues I will not address to protect her recovery. Needless to say, based on “issues” I threatened to leave my second wife and take custody of our two common children. My second wife knew I was serious and capable, having raised four children as a single parent stemming from my first marriage, so my threats of taking custody of our two common children were real. DCS was called and involved with my family, and allegations were made by my second wife, which she later racanted and denied making on an letter to the court and as a future witness to the pending dependency before Juvenile court in 2020. My boys from my second wife were temporarily placed with relatives during these proceedings, the severely mentally ill older children from my first marriage to Julie Bacolas.


In February, 2020, I was preparing for the return of my two young boys to my care and a civil action against the State of Arizona and the Department of Child Safety for the conduct of case worker Lisa Millett and DCS supervisor, Joelle Higby, in that dependency. DCS had suppressed the evidence from my 1998 CPS/DCS case file showing I was a fit parent, as well as the testimony on audio recording of my victim daughter in 1998. Due to “issues” with my second wife in my marriage, I participated in 2016 and 2017 in two family preservation programs, and each program vetted me as a fit parent and no abuse of my children was reported by the them. Furthermore, my step daughter who for now will remain unnamed, was the victim of a violent and brutal rape n 2009 by registered sex offender Phillip Menting, who is currently serving a 35 year sentence for that crime in Arizona. 


I was also vetted as a fit parent at that time for the care of that child. On the CPS/DCS reports that were made in my first and second marriages, the children were pulled out of school and interviewed by the department each time, and they denied that I ever was an abusive parent on each of these documented interviews by the department. This was all suppressed by the department in the dependency in 2020. 


What was also suppressed by the department was my credentials in the behavioral health industry. I was very combative with the department and demanded an immediate return of my children to my care. I erred by threatening civil litigation against DCS and the state and on subsequent conversations with several attorneys, it was told to me if DCS knows a parent is preparing litigation against the department, that they will do anything and everything to sever a parents rights. Without custody of the children in question, the parent is barred from civil litigation on their behalf, from what I was counseled. Furthermore, there was THC found in the feces of my oldest son from my second wife. DCS got involved and had an informal hearing in 2008 where all my older children from my first marriage were present and testified that I, their father, was a good parent and never abused or harmed his children.


Basically, I was a previously vetted parent by the deportment multiple times with an impeccable recoRd working with children and families in the community. A cause of action existed against the State of Arizona for the removal of my children from my care, so the conduct of DCS changed from child welfare to protecting the state from yet another civil settlement for misconduct by the department.  Lisa Millett has built quite a reputation in the community for wrongs committed against innocent parents:


Children Taken by Arizona CPS for 2.5 Years Return Home ...

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Angels that don't deserve the corruption of Az DCS / Lisa Millett...

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Preparing for the return of my two boys from my second marriage in 2020, the department motioned the court to suspend my visitation pending forensic interviews accusing me of sexual abuse. I was appalled that the department, having lose their dependency case on a default judgment with false pleadings, would stoop so low to deprive a man of his children and to keep his family apart, simply to avoid yet another civil action and a resulting cash settlement. Of course my two little boys unequivocally denied any such things had ever occurred in separate forensic interviews, nevertheless, Joelle Higby prepared a report to the juvenile court that sexual abuse was “suspected”. I was speechless. 


To add insult to the injury I had already incurred at the hands of the Department of Child Safey. My youngest adult daughter, full blown with bipolar and psychotic features, under the supposed menticide and direction of sociopath, Julie Bacolas, gave three forensic interviews, each with contradictory statements as they were false accusations against her father. The narrative that Julie Bacolas spoon fed her children in 2009 had morphed into the daughter not remembering her sexual abuse by Ed Stoffers due to repression, to it never happening, to forensic interviews where she was claiming In 2020 that I, her father, was the person who sexually abused her. Bizarre and disgusting, to say the least. Of course my attorney totally impeached the psychotic testimony as the liar she is, but the damage was already done. A roommate of six years who had lived with the family testified at a hearing stating the girl was lying and that no abuse ever happened by the father during her childhood. After this man’s testimony, my severely mentally ill and pathological liar daughter gave yet another interview with the department accusing this man of sexual improprieties as well. The disgust is overwhelming.


The twisted story, which Julie Bacolas' ongoing menticide and discord is behind, is now that I contrived sexual molestation of my daughter in 1998 in order to gain custody of my four older children, but it was not Ed Stoffers who did the abuse, but it was me, her father. More outlandish false accusations were made about me by these severely mentally ill older children, which included that I had killed other children and dismembered their body parts, I put puppies in bags and slammed them against walls, and that I had abused my youngest daughter ad nauseum while she was growing up, although at these times my sister and girlfriends lived in our home, along with my girlfriend’s own children, sharing rooms with my youngest daughter and her sister. No abuse ever happened and I have witnesses to support that fact. Furthermore, I have made contact with most of the adult children’s friends from their childhood and adolescence, and they are all equally appalled at the accusations coming from these mentally ill older children. All are prepared to testify in defamation actions I intend to pursue against all parties.


My reputation has been permanent destroyed by a vindictive first wife and her mentally ill, sociopath, pathological liar children. I can never work with children again as a result of the dependency. My professional reputation with children and families has been permanently destroyed. Although these older children’s testimony was impeached in court with facts, the court was still “prejudiced” by such accusations, and to err on the side of caution in the “best interests of the children” my attorney believed I would lose the dependency before the juvenile court in favor of family placement. It was believed before the “vaudeville show” of an actual trial, that I voluntarily sever my parental rights. That was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. 


Julie Bacolas fanned the flames of discord with my older children (gaslighting), who believed I robbed them of their mother during their childhood. I was no saint either. I resented how my children behaved with their delinquency, burning houses, evictions, shoplifting, burglaries, etc. I wanted these children to know the sacrifice I made by withdrawing from graduate school to care for them, but that was misinterpreted over the years as me blaming my older children for my not receiving my doctoral degree.I was trying to appeal to my children's empathy of my sacrifice, but I myself repressed the oviousness that my children were narcissists who lack empathy, like their mother.


I also told these older children during their delinquencies that I was going to remarry and have two more children that did not cause me the grief they had caused me as a single parent. That was wrong for a father to say to his children. I freely admit that failing as well, and that narrative weaponized the adult chilfen against their father in his subsequent dependency with his two little boys. The adult children worked with their mother and DCS to follow a knowingly false narrative peddled by Julie Bacolas that affected my second family, and to play into the hands of a guilty DCS to avoid a civil suit with damages, a vindictive narcissist hell bent on annhiliating my life, using her flying monkeys to do a "hit job" on me, which Lisa Millett and DCS promoted to avoid further civil liability to another wronged family.


I’ve spoken to three tort attorneys in Arizona about the horrible reality of bringing a defamation law suit against my first wife and three of our common children. What a nightmare to have to do that to remedy a destroyed reputation, but I have no other alternative. As hard as it is to obtain a judgment for defamation of character, the legal experts all concur that I have a “prima facia” case for a judgment in civil court. So, that is my course of action. One attorney put on his “human” hat and walked away from being an attorney and talked to me as a human being. He thought I should publish everything you all have done to me, as long as it is all 100 percent truthful. It is….all of it. I was surprised he gave me that advice, so here we are.


I plan to continue to exercise my constitutional guarantees of free speech and tell the world of the atrocities that were committed against me and my two little boys by my first wife’s false narrative, and what in my opinion was her “coaching” of the older children’s testimony in the dependency which I self severed my parenting rights. 


For two years I would cry every day, not just at the loss of my little boys, but that my older children would say such horrible things about the father who loves them with all their hearts. I don’t cry as much these days, but I do have my spells. I honestly believe my older children and Julie Bacolas were trying to get me to commit suicide, which my attorney believed I did on August 12, 2020. I was not answering her phone calls, so she feared the worst and called the Phoenix Police Department for a welfare check. I awoke to two police officers standing over my bed, and the first thing that came into my mind was that I was being arrested under suspicion of murdering and dismembering children as accused by my older children. 


The truth of what Julie Bacolas has done to destroy my life and two families are well documented and true. The dissemination of knowingly false information before the dependency hearing occurred, during the actual proceedings, and afterwards are a matter of documentary fact. The witness impeachment of these older children are also a part of the court record, as falsehoods and malicious statements. DCS;s role in perpetrating this vaudeville show is there in the juvenile pleadings for all to see. Presently, I am exposing truthful information regarding the character wand atrocities Julie Bacolas caused with two separate families. 


I will continue to publish true and accurate content under the names of all my older children from now and until the day I die, exercising my free speech rights as guaranteed under the United States Constitution. 


Julie Bacolas seems like a very sincere individual when speaking with her. This is because, in part, that her entire face was reconstructed through plastic surgery from an accident she experienced during childhood. Also, she is a sociopath malignant narcissist who lacks empathy. The normal facial expressions indicating dishonesty are absent from her demeanor. She is quite convincing that I am a manipulator, liar, that I brainwash people, etc. This false narrative was repeated during my daughters interviews with the department, indicating in my opinion “coaching” from their mother, Julie Bacolas. These are the traits of a sociopath which are the traits of Julie Bacolas, which she is projecting onto me to distance herself from the reality of her own manipulation and brainwashing of her own adult children. 


My statements are supported by facts, court records, and documentary evidence. Julie’s statements, defamation of my character, and false narratives are supported by absolutely no facts, but is the attempt by a woman who is vindictive and does not want to be remembered as the mother who deserted her adult children and exposed them to a predator. The false statements, and this is my opinion based on verbiage Julie has used in the past, was coached by Julie regarding my older children, specifically Julie Bacolas, is the rants of angry children who think I robbed them of their mother during their childhood, they do not want to accept the fact that their mother deserted them, they are angry that they believe I blame them for my not finishing graduate school, they are angry that I exposed them to my second wife, and they want to spite and hurt me by robbing me of a relationship with my two young boys, to hurt me for an unwarranted hurt they think I committed against them. The real victims are these two innocent little boys, robbed of their father’s affection. Everyone will know the truth as to what has happened to me at the hands of these sociopaths and pathological liars, and I will continue to publish the truth until the day I die. My boys will know the truth when they are older and hate you all, for being participants in all of this. That is a certainty.


Below is a picture of my older children with my then girlfriend's two children, three years prior to Julie Bacolas’ return and destruction of my family. Delinquency and problems subsided at this point and they were all healthy and happy children. This all chenged with Julia Bacolas' reintroduction to the family dynamic and her resulting menticide.

Michael Bacolas

Michael Bacolas, Michael Bacolas Jr, Michael Allen Bacolas

Michael Bacolas

Michael Bacolas: Narcissistic Menticide Flying Monkey...

Michael Bacolas NPD troll on SMI Bacolas siblings!

Bacolas Family Christmas, 2008.


Michael Robertson celebrates his new family with his older children at the first family Christmas at Disneyland.


This was the last time the family spent any holidays together, due to the menticide and malicious NPD envy of Michael Bacolas.


https://michaelbacolas.com/julia-bacolas


The father had survived 20 years of abuse by the older Bacolas children, he was in debt $234,000 in loans to accelerate his older children's cognitive development, as Michael Bacolas and his siblings tested with cognitive, developmental, and language retardation in elementary school.


Ignoring the fact his father was a quarter million dollars in debt to help treat his malignancies, provided his son with a car, free rent as an adult, and paid first semester college...to a malignant NPD narcissist with malicious envy...none of that mattered.


Nor did it matter that Michael Bacolas' and his brother's malignancies kept their father from graduating with his doctoral education in counseling psychology:


https://juliebacolas.com/christopher-bacolas


$234,000 in debt due to Michael and his siblings' malignancies, 20 years of abuse as their caregiver, and provider of support during their early adulthood...how did Michael Bacolas repay his father to the life they destroyed?


Michael Bacolas repaid his father for his lifetime of sacrifice by destroying Christmas at Disneyland in 2008. 


Tirades, complaining, fighting at Christmas dinner...an NPD jealousy and malignant envy over his father and his new family....destroyed Christmas because of some lame story of a $7,000 debt Michael owed in a bank account from a business venture with his father. 


Michael Robertson was always humiliated by his son Michael Jr... Christmas 2008 was no exception:


https://michaelbacolas.com/disclosure-form


Michael Robertson should have expected this, with the "problems" and "Issues" Michael Bacolas was born with, which ultimately was the reason the father changed his name (not wanting the same name as his son for these obvious NPD reasons...):


https://michaelbacolas.com/


In 2019, Michael Bacolas' wife, Leandra Bacolas, divorced this "man" due to "issues" and "problems" with relations to "children" in the community and on her laptop computer:


https://juliebacolas.com/leandra-stenbak


Leandra Bacolas aka Leandra Stenbak is now forced to raise her two prepubescent daugters as a single mother due to these "issues" Michael Bacolas has with "children" and his particular "problem" on laptops and electronic devices:


https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/leandra-bacolas-a-hard-working-single-mother-of-2

Freud imparts some form of explanation for Michael's "problems" and issues:


https://michaelbacolas.com/psychosexual


Ericson defined Michael Bacolas' hereditary "problems" with children as based on arrested psychosexual development:


https://michaelbacolas.com/psychosexual


In layman's terms, Michael Bacolas was a pansy and fell for a Stockholm Syndrome fostered by his drug addict, Machiavellian mother's return after nine years of abandonment:


https://michaelbacolas.com/stockholm-syndrome


Disgusting excuse for a man!


Havelock Ellis describes Michael Bacolas' unnatural "issues" with children to be a malignant form of Narcissistic Personality Disorder:


https://michaelbacolas.com/narcissism


Michael Bacolas NPD malignancies can be traced to the sociopathy and heridity of his mother, Julia Bacolas:


https://juliebacolas.com/julie-bacolas-sociopath


His mother's abuse and neglect was highly documented in the 1990s and came to full fruition with the execution of a bizarre and perverted menticide upon her severely mentally Ill, NPD children in 2009:


https://juliebacolas.com/julia-bacolas


Lawrence Kohlberg identifies Michael Bacolas' issues as originating with arrested moral development, based on his cognitive and developmental retardation:


https://michaelbacolas.com/kohlberg-stages


It's a wonder how Michael Robertson was able to survive the 34 years of narcissistic abuse by Michael Bacolas and his NPD family of Machiavellian minions:


https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-robertson


Michael's sisters perpetrated an adoption fraud upon their innocent father while he was ill and under the care of a doctor in 2020:


https://amandabacolas.com/


Their father was forced to file an $8.4M lawsuit in Arizona state court as a result of these people's attack upon his person and children:


https://arizonadcscorruption.com/arizona-dcs-corruption/f/84m-in-damages-filed-by-a-dcs-sponsored-fraudulent-adoption


The sister, Jennifer Bacolas aka Jennifer Quinn, has a malignant form of NPD, referred to as the "Jezebel Persona"


https://jenniferbacolas.com/jennifer-bacolas


Michael Bacolas' sisters' pathology rivals his own with their sociopathy and malicious attacks against their caregiver father:


https://jenniferbacolas.com/jennifer-marie-bacolas


Michael Robertson has 25 witnesses to be called in support of the abuse he suffered at the hands of Michael Bacolas and his diseased siblings in Superior Court:


https://jenniferbacolas.com/jennifer-quinn-realtor


Lawyers have attempted to negotiate with these severely mentally ill perpetrators, but their sociopathy is hard wired and necessitated legal action by Michael Robertson:


https://jenniferbacolas.com/amanda-bacolas


Julie Bacolas is the dark shadow behind the attacks on Michael Robertson and his two minor children:


https://jenniferbacolas.com/julia-bacolas


Michael Bacolas' form of Machiavellianism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder has been identified as demonic in nature:


https://jenniferbacolas.com/jungian-shadow


Carl Jung stated this type of demonic abuse to be based on the dark regions of the human psyche called the Shadow:


https://michaelbacolas.com/philosophy-%26-religion


The demonism was first introduced to the family by the document NPD abuses by Michael Bacolas' mother with the assault of his sister in 1998:


https://amandabacolas.com/ed-stoffers


Ed Stoffers had a previous criminal record of perpetration against minors in the State of California:


https://jenniferbacolas.com/ed-stoffers


Julie Bacolas abandoned her family in 1998 during divorce proceedings when Ed Stoffers was being investigated for his crimes against Michael Robertson's youngest daughter:


https://juliebacolas.com/ed-stoffers


The evidence against Michael Bacolas and his NPD family in their abuse of their care giver father is overwhelming:


https://jenniferbacolas.com/information-request-form


The father has an $8.4M lawsuit filed against Michael Bacolas' sisters, Amanda and Jennifer Bacolas aka Jennifer Quinn:


https://juliebacolas.com/a-fathers-struggle-1/f/amanda-bacolas-new-career-as-realtor-real-estate-agent


Leandra Stenbak is also a victim of this pathology of the Bacolas family:


https://juliebacolas.com/a-fathers-struggle-1/f/leandra-may-stenbak-the-innocent-victim-of-npd-pedophilia


Such malignancies have been described and attributed to Narcissistic Personality Disorder:


https://juliebacolas.com/a-fathers-struggle-1/f/michael-bacolas-and-covert-narcissism

https://juliebacolas.com/a-fathers-struggle-1/f/michael-bacolas-jr


In an attempt to be masculine in light of his unnatural "associations" with children, Michael Bacolas has attempted to be a personal trainer:


https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-personal-trainer


Real men are appalled at the deficiencies of this "man" and his personal trainer business has been an abject failure:


http://personaltrainermichaelbacolas.com/


Michael Allen Bacolas

Michael Bacolas and Jennifer Bacolas

https://jenniferbacolas.com/jennifer-bacolas/f/dcs-director-mike-fausts-toxic-placement-of-children

https://jenniferbacolas.com/jennifer-bacolas/f/jennifer-bacolas-last-chance-for-reconciliation-with-her-father

https://jenniferbacolas.com/jennifer-bacolas/f/michael-faust-mark-brnovich-doug-ducey-your-time-has-expired

https://jenniferbacolas.com/jennifer-bacolas/f/david-quinn-arizona-fraudulent-schemes

Michael Allen Bacolas

https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-allen-bacolas-jrhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelbacolashttps://sites.google.com/site/michaelbacolascom

Michael Allen Bacolas

https://twitter.com/michaelabacolas?lang=enhttps://michaelallenbacolas.wordpress.com/author/michaelallenbacolas/https://cocofinder.com/name/michael-bacolashttps://www.flickr.com/photos/michael-allen-bacolas/44640362492https://www.pinterest.com/mbacolas/

Michael Bacolas Jr

https://www.pinterest.cl/michaelallenbacolas/?amp_client_id=CLIENT_ID(_)&mweb_unauth_id=https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/87001718-michael-bacolashttps://completed.com/individual/28214924/michael-bacolashttps://www.youtube.com/user/michaelbep777

Michael Bacolas

https://www.zoominfo.com/p/Michael-Bacolas/-1148077https://christopherjamesbacolas.wordpress.com/tag/michael-allen-bacolas/https://christopherjamesbacolas.wordpress.com/tag/michael-allen-bacolas/https://clustrmaps.com/persons/Michael-Bacolas

Michael Allen Bacolas

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Leandra Bacolas

https://www.facebook.com/leandra.lmthttps://www.callersmart.com/AZ/Phoenix/602-865-9

Leandra Stenbak

https://www.locatepeople.org/leandra-stenbak/https://www.usphonebook.com/leandra-stenbak/UcTN1MTOygTNzkTNykTO1EDO1czRhttps://he-il.facebook.com/leandra.stenbak/photoshttps://clustrmaps.com/person/Stenbak-aau96ohttps://www.whitepages.com/name/Leandra-Stenbakhttps://www.searchpeoplefree.com/find/leandra-m-stenbak/2923NUAfb16Bhttps://resumizer.com/resumes/cat-19-147.php

Flying monkey for Julie Bacolas' narcissistic menticide of SMI siblings!

Julie Bacolas used Michael Bacolas to execute her narcissistic menticide against the care giver father, due to his unresolved Oedipus Complex and expression of Stockholm Syndrome. Michael Bacolas' flying monkey menticide occured on a daily basis for years, until the psyche of the entire Bacolas was broken down by this character assasination by a pedophile NPD.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bYkn4QT1j3Q

Find out more about Michael Bacolas' narcissistic menticide as a flying monkey here!

Narcissistic Menticide Flying Monkey Michael Bacolas

Michael Bacolas' menticide on siblings an act of cowardice!

 Dr. Les Carter breaks down the dynamic between narcissists and their flying monkeys and offers explanations about what's really going on. 

Michael Allen Bacolas NPD Troll

 Michael Robertsson is no stranger to narcissistic abuse. With a lifetime of personal experience and psychology research, he is someone who truly understands what it is like to fall victim to sadistic emotional predators like NPD pedophile Michael Bacolas.

Surviving the narcissistic abuse of flying monkey Michael Bacolas? There is a special place for NPD perpetrators.

"Throw out the worthless slave into the outer darkness; in that place there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth." Matthew 25:30


 "The sons of the kingdom will be cast out into the outer darkness; in that place there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.” Matthew 8:12

Michael Bacolas total disappointment as a son

Michael Bacolas

Michael Bacolas Jr

Michael Bacolas michaelbacolas.com

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-15

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-1

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-2

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-3

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-4


Michael Bacolas Jr

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-5

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-6

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-7

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-9

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-10


Michael Allen Bacolas

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-11

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-12

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-13

https://michaelbacolas.com/michael-bacolas-jr/f/michael-bacolas-14


 

Michael Allen Bacolas' Blog

Michael Bacolas' fitness and wellness blog.

https://michaelallenbacolas.wordpress.com/author/michaelallenbacolas/


Michael Allen Bacolas Twitter

@MichaelABacolas

https://twitter.com/michaelabacolas?lang=en


Michael Allen Bacolas Flickr

https://www.flickr.com/photos/michael-allen-bacolas/45264736611/


Pinterest

Michael Allen Bacolas

114 Pins 1ymichaelallenbacolasCollection by Michael Bacolas 

https://www.pinterest.com/michaelallenbacolas/michael-allen-bacolas/


 

CHRISTOPHER BACOLAS' BLOG

A rare insight.

Tag: Michael Allen Bacolas

TOLERANCE AND CULTURAL DIVERSITY

https://christopherjamesbacolas.wordpress.com/tag/michael-allen-bacolas/


 

Michael Allen Robertson VS Amanda Jane Bacolas Et Al

https://unicourt.com/case/az-mas2-michael-allen-robertson-vs-amanda-jane-bacolas-et-al-92107


 

Michael Bacolas - President & CEO - IWDC - LinkedIn

https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelbacolas


 

3 "Michael Bacolas" profiles - LinkedIn

https://www.linkedin.com/pub/dir/Michael/Bacolas


 Reservations Manager at Valley Environmental Resources, Inc. - Michael Allen Bacolas 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-allen-bacolas-jr


Michael Allen Bacolas

Michael Allen Bacolas

Michael Bacolas

Michael Bacolas

https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelbacolas

https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-allen-bacolas-jr

https://m.facebook.com/michael.bacolas.3

https://opencorporates.com/companies/us_az/L13040609

https://www.pinterest.com/michaelallenbacolas/michael-bacolas/

https://www.realtyhop.com/property-records/search?q=Michael+Bacolas


Michael Bacolas Jr

https://sites.google.com/site/michaelbacolascom/michael-s-interview

https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/87001718-michael-bacolas

https://cocofinder.com/name/michael-bacolas

https://www.bbb.org/us/az/surprise/profile/web-design/internet-website-design-concepts-llc-1126-1000045687



Michael Allen Bacolas Jr

https://personaltrainermichaelbacolas.com/

https://www.bing.com/images/search?q=michael+allen+bacolas&qpvt=michael+allen+bacolas&tsc=ImageHoverTitle&FORM=IGRE

https://www.mylife.com/michael-bacolas/e23302423536

https://curadvisor.com/pro/Michael-Bacolas-CoGODXFC


Mike Bacolas

https://www.facebook.com/mike.bacolas



Michael Allen Bacolas

https://www.flickr.com/photos/michael-allen-bacolas/44352890405/

https://www.flickr.com/photos/michael-allen-bacolas/

https://twitter.com/michaelabacolas?lang=en



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