34 years of abuse by Julie Bacolas and her SMI offspring led to the development in a new paradigm in behavioral health: Narcissistic Menticide Psychology.
This content is for the parties who are its subject matter.
When dealing with malignant narcissism, the perpetrators must be faced with the truth of their conduct, for proper mental health awareness and healing can take place with the perpetrators of such abuse. The secondary reason for this content is to repair the reputation of Michael Robertson, grossly destroyed by these malicious attacks against his person and character by these perpetrators. And finally, the content is used as a case study in the treatment of other survivors of narcissistic abuse.
In 2009, Julia Ann Bacolas conducted a menticide against her severely mentally ill (SMI) children from her first marriage, dually diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Her children were already symptomatic of mental illness, due to the hereditary dispositions of Julia Bacolas, whose malignant genetic NPD was already heavily documented at the end of her marriage and during the divorce and custody proceedings in 1998.
During a divorce proceeding in 1998, Julia Bacolas fled Phoenix, Arizona, when the Glendale Police Department opened an investigation for the sexual molestation of her inor daughter, by Julia's boyfriend, Edward Troy Stoffers:
In 2009, Julia Bacolas returned to the family and conducted a Machiavellian menticide on her severely mentally ill offspring:
The outcomes of the menticide on her SMI children was disasterous.
The oldest son was a first year college student in 2009, happy with a bright future.
The menticide on Julia's oldest son in 2009 had deleterious effects to his already retarded psychosocial development, based on early childhood screenings indicating global cognitive deficits we now know are the markers for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
In, 2019, the oldest son's wife left him after exposing her and her children from his unabated NPD pedophilia and addiction to child porn:
After Julia's menticide in 2009, Julia's second oldest son, the most severe case of mental illness, went from a productive college student, to an adult on permanent SSDI disability in 2014, for schizoaffective disorder with behaviors on the NPD spectrum:
The oldest daughter, with the most severe cognitive test scores with global retardation in all developmental areas, went from a first year college student and technical support supervisor for a reputation management company in 2009, to a perpetrator of an adoption fraud and with grotesque NPD accusations against her own father for admissions of child dismemberment, serial kidnappings, child rape, and horrible animal abuse:
The younger daughter became a personality within the dark triad of Machiavellianism, perpetrated a paternity fraud in 2012 against an African American regarding a blonde hair, blue eyed, Caucasian boy; participated in an adoption fraudulent scheme with her older sister based on highly bizarre NPD smear campaign against her own father; and, evidence suggest that she is maintaining dual personalities to mask involvement in fraudulent schemes targeting the elderly for financial exploitation, and business associations to accused sex traffickers out of California in 2021:
The victim of Julia Bacolas' narcissistic menticide against her own children, and the man whose life was destroyed by this Machiavellian sociopath and her NPD offspring, is Michael Robertson and the author of this website:
JULIA BACOLAS: CASE STUDY IN MACIAVELLIAN NARCISSISTIC MENTICIDE!
This website is a case study of a Machiavellian malignant narcissist and her NPD heredity which was passed to her children, with case studies of each SMI individual in support of this thesis.
This study is a conclusion of Michael Robertson's unfinished Master's Thesis, "Accelerating Children's Cognitive Development." The conclusion is apparent: Children who are prescreened in early cognitive testing with brain abnormalities of cognitive, language, and developmental dysfunction should not have their cognitive development accelerated, as those early childhood screenings of cognitive retardation are indicative of abnormal brain development, which are cognitive markers for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
Children who are identified in early childhood cognitive screenings for NPD should not have their cognitive development accelerated, as it produces adults with higher levels of criminal and malignant reasoning, and exasperates their hereditary dispositions for the expression of severe mental illness as adults.
These conclusions do not imply children with developmental cognitive delays as markers for NPD should not receive special needs services to become adaptive children.
These conclusions support the premise that beyond special needs interventions, NPD children should not have their cognitive development accelerated to gifted and genius levels, as individuals suffering from this disorder have areas of the brain with abnormalities in the expression of emotional and cognitive empathy.
Therefore, accelerating children to a gifted level of intelligence with an absence, or low, cognitive function for empathy, has the deleterious effect of creating adult individuals with hyper criminality and malignancy with the diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
A malignant narcissist's use of menticide as a tool for reputational refabrication and revenge!
The content of this website examines the toxic environment of maternal neglect and abuse to the Bacolas children by the NPD parenting of Julie Bacolas, the trauma the mother's hereditary disorder caused her children and family which precipitated the divorce in 1998, and the post abandonment menticide that was conducted on these adolescents and young adults, causing dual adult expressions of severe mental illness and NPD.
This thesis is an evaluation of an accused sociopath, a behavior health counselor at Community Medical Services in Kingman, Arizona, Julie (Julia) Ann Bacolas. The individual who is the topic of this examination holds a bachelors of arts degree from Arizona State University. Although Julia Bacolas earned a masters in counseling from Chapman University, her degree and credentials were withheld due to the character defects outlined in this website. It is unknown if Chapman University ever granted Julie Bacolas her professional degree.
Julia Ann Bacolas is currently employed as a drug counselor at Community Medical Services in Kingman, Arizona. Degree requirements in the state of Arizona for drug counselors: a high school diploma.
Julia Bacolas: Narcissistic Menticide Perpetrator!
The research, conclusions, and theories applied here are published for intense scrutiny by psychologists, educators, behavioral health professionals, legal scholars, government agencies, The American Psychological Association (APA), The American Counseling Association (ACA), members of the community, and the adult victims, which are the subject matter of this intense case study of menticide, coercive persuasion, thought reform, psychological manipulation, and re-education by a mental health practitioner, Julia Bacolas. Throughout this thesis, the intent and execution of a false reality, perpetrated as a bizarre form of manipulation, will be referred to simply as “menticide.”
Mountain of documentary evidence to support of this new paradigm in behavioral health!
All the facts stated in support of this thesis are fully validated by case files cited, audio taped counseling sessions, affidavits by behavioral health case workers, testimony of registered nurse, case files with the Arizona State Department of Child Safety, investigations and reports by the Phoenix and Glendale Police Departments in Arizona, and testimony of neighbors, students, and acquaints of Julia Bacolas during her 1998 divorce proceedings and the subsequent sexual abuse of her youngest daughter during this period, while under her parental care.
"Narcissistic personality disorder — one of several types of personality disorders — is a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others."
THE FOLLOWING TEXT IS THE EXPRESSION OF MICHAEL ROBERTSON'S 30 YEARS OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE BY THE BACOLAS FAMILY.
THE TEXT IS KEPT IN IT'S ORIGINAL MANNER AND IS A RECORD OF THE ABUSE AND TRAUMA MICHAEL ROBERTSON ENDURED, AND CONTINUES TO ENDURE TO THIS VERY DAY, FROM THE GROTESQUE ADOPTION FRAUD AND MENTICIDE PERPETRATED BY JULIE BACOLAS AND HER FAMILY.
THIS CONTENT IS IN IT'S ORIGINAL FORMAT AS A RECORD OF EVENTS AND TO HELP OTHER SURVIVORS OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE AND MENTICIDE.
About the author and pioneer in this new field of Narcissistic Menticide Psychology, Abuse and Recovery:
Since the publication of this content, Michael Robertson became the founder and President of the non-profit entity, Arizona Advocacy Foundation for Victims of DCS Corruption.
Since 2005, Michael has been an online reputation and brand management specialist, and is the CEO of Brand Management Consultants, located in Scottsdale, Arizona:
He retired from behavioral health in 2005, but returned in 2021 to serve parents of children who are victims of sexual abuse, and adult survivors of narcissistic abuse, as the Clinical Director of the Phoenix Coalition for the Families and Victims of Child Sexual Abuse:
In 2023, Michael will offer parents litigation support against child protective services as an expert witness in multiple disciplines, and will be offering his expert witness testimony in multiple disciplines from a parent's perspective and upon publication of his book, "Narcissistic Menticide Psychology, Abuse & Recovery" to be released in 2023. Presently, Mr. Robertson is working towards certifications in behavioral health to be of service to parents in litigation with child protective services in the United States:
In 2022, Michael Robertson is listed nationally with Expert Engine as an expert witness with matters involving child protective services, parents of children who are victims of sexual assault, and narcissistic menticide abuse and recovery:
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Mr. Robertson is the father of seven children and has worked as a clinician and as a parent in various capacities with child protective services for the past 23 years.
Arizona Advocacy Foundation for Victims of DCS Corruption, Phoenix Coalition for the Families and Victims of Child Sexual Abuse, and Brand Management Consultants are corporations and non-profit entities registered and in good standing with the Arizona Corporation Commission and the Arizona Secretary of State
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A champion against DCS corruption in Arizona, Michael Robertson will not stop until every child who was wrongly removed is returned to their parents loving arms!
This content is for other survivors of narcissistic menticide abuse.
Julia Ann Bacolas graduated with Bachelors of Arts degree from Arizona State University in 1996 and a Masters in Counseling degree in 1998. Although her coursework for her post graduate degree in counseling was achieved in 1998, Chapman University would not credenialise her as a counselor, or grant the degree for a number of years later due to character deficiencies, which are outlined in this thesis.
During this subject’s undergraduate and post graduate studies, Julie Ann Bacolas developed a documented amphetamine addiction (crystal meth) which remained untreated throughout her marriage and until her divorce in 1998. It is unknown whether this individual eventually received psychiatric treatment or addiction recovery for this disorder. This subject participated in psychologically damaging behaviors (to herself, her children, and her marriage) and these behaviors are heavily documented by objective and qualified outsiders, on file with the Superior Court in Arizona, including, but not limited to, severe drug addiction, behaviors that included prostitution, subjecting her youngest daughter to an environment which caused documented sexual abuse of a minor, and abandoning her elementary age common children with Michael Robertson for nine years.
"According to thedawnrehab.com, people suffering narcissism and drug addiction have a dual diagnosis:"
"Narcissism and drug addiction often go hand-in-hand since individuals with narcissistic personalities need to find a way to escape their overwhelming emotional anxiety and pain. Similarly, most addicts have narcissistic traits."
"Other overlapping characteristics between narcissism and drug addiction include:"
"Ultimately, both narcissists and addicts only pay attention to the possibility of the reward and disregard the potential downside of their behavior."
The father of her common children obtained custody on a temporary emergency order in 1998, and then was granted custodial parenting with joint custodial rights with Julie Bacolas, during the course of divorce proceedings. She was granted custody privileges with visitation of the children until they reached the age of maturity and adulthood.
Several weeks after the father received custodial parenting from the Suprior Court, unusual behavior was witnessed coming from their youngest daughter, which prompted a police report to the Glendale Police Department. A physical forensic examination of the child was conducted and no signs of forced penetration was found. The child would not discuss the subject matter of her unusual behavior to the Glendale Police Department, so at their advice, the father retained marriage and family therapist, Rochelle Silverman, who conducted counseling with the youngest daughter. The goal of counseling was for the little girl to feel comfortable to discuss any matters with police detectives. Approximately five weeks into therapy, the child opened up, on audio tape, unprompted, and gave great detail regarding the sexual abuse she had experienced at the hands of her mother’s boyfriend while in her care, a man by the name of:
Edward Troy Stoffers aks Ed Stoffers aka Edward Stoffers
Although Julie Bacolas was considered, based on her education, as a behavioral health professional in 1998, she declined to have her daughter evaluated independently by a psychologist of her choosing, refusing to exercise her joint custody rights as a parent regarding the mental health of her child. When the graphic audio tape descriptions of sexual abuse were provided to the Superior Court, the Glendale Police Department, and the Department of Child Safety (CPS at the time), Julie Bacolas fled Phoenix, Arizona, with the accused perpetrator of the sexual assault of her daughter. It was the belief and opinion of the Glendale Police detectives, as well as private investigator, Colonel John T. Tavernaro, that the couple fled the state of Arizona to avoid the questioning of Edward Troy Stoffers and his probable prosecution for that sexual offense against a minor.
Amy Guertin, MC (2020) supports the father's position when dealing with a sociopathic narcissist parent:
"It is critical that children have at least one parent protecting and prioritizing their mind, body, and spirit. If not, this type of treatment can be detrimental to their development, and also cuts their precious childhoods short."
"A person who has narcissistic tendencies will always put their needs first. He or she will not put the children first and will attempt to use the children as tools for their agenda. Since they will not put the needs of your children first, you need to - regardless of the effects of your behavior on him or her."
On background checks conducted by the Glendale Police Department, independent investigations by Colonel John T. Tavernaro, and through testimony from members of the community, Edward Troy Stoffers aka Ed Stoffers had previously been accused of sexual molestation of his common daughter by his ex-wife, charges of sexual misconduct with minors in the state of California, and he was an escapee from a minimum security jail in that state as well. Neither of these individuals could be located for a number of years, as it was believed, to avoid being located for these several offenses.
Julia Bacolas always maintained joint custody of her four children with visitation rights, but chose not to exercise those rights for seven years. The only conditions set forth by the Superior Court in Arizona for visitations it that the children were to have no contact with the accused perpetrator, Ed Stoffers.
William Krill (2020) explains these types of narcissistic parents:
"This parent is quite simply all about themselves, all the time. This is a very difficult concept for most normal people to grasp; it is hard to relate to a parent who has no genuine concern for their child other than how that child can enhance the parent’s image, or how the child can be drawn from as a source of ‘narcissistic supply’."
Julie Bacolas' post-divorce life was not known fully to the father or their common children for many years. On a reverse directory look up after a call from the mother, it was found she was working at a “gentleman’s club” in the state of Texas, called “Civil West.” It is assumed she continued employment in these establishments to maintain the “lifestyle” that she chose. In 2005, it was ascertained that Julia Ann Bacolas was employed as a school bus driver for some elementary school in Texas, inconsistent with her undergraduate and post graduate education in counseling psychology. The father was under the belief that his ex-wife’s “deficiencies” had continued and was unsure when Chapman University ultimately granted her the Masters in Counseling. It is unknown when this individual began practicing as a professional counselor, but it was ascertained that in 2020, that she was employed as a substance abuse counselor at Community Medical Services in Kingman, Arizona.
Suzanna Quintana (2019) discusses the double life of a sociopath narcissist:
"There are certain aspects of Narcissists that are inherent: they are pathological liars and, like vampires, conceal their true identity in order to better feed their need for supply. Because of this, they wear different masks in front of different people in order to keep up the façade of being a good person. No different than the wizard in Oz who ends up being just a short bald guy with a microphone (oh the irony of this being literally true in my case), a Narcissist hides behind a curtain and furthers his own image through lies, manipulation, coercion, and deceit."
"In truth, Narcissists live more than a double life considering how they’re presenting themselves to different crowds, wearing different masks. A spouse sees one variation, while friends, business partners, and family members may see an entirely different one. Naturally, anyone in an intimate relationship with a Narcissist is in for the biggest surprise since they are the ones emotionally invested in who the one that they love initially claimed to be."
Before this thesis examines the grotesque form of menticide executed by Julia Bacolas on her children and unfamiliar community members 22 years after the fact, an examination of the duty of care of a counselor, the American Counseling Association’s code of ethics for practitioners, and the universally accepted goals and methods for counseling will be examined here for scholarly examination.
I. The American Counseling Association’s Code of Ethics, 2014 Revised:
According to ACA’s preamble:
“These professional values provide a conceptual basis for the ethical principles enumerated below. These principles are the foundation for ethical behavior and decision making.
The fundamental principles of professional ethical behavior are
• autonomy, or fostering the right to control the direction of one’s life;
• nonmaleficence, or avoiding actions that cause harm;
• beneficence, or working for the good of the individual and society by promoting mental health and well-being;
• justice, or treating individuals equitably and fostering fairness and equality;
• fidelity, or honoring commitments and keeping promises, including fulfilling one’s responsibilities of trust in professional relationships; and
• veracity, or dealing truthfully with individuals with whom counselors come into professional contact.”
Regarding ethical dilemmas, and being the mother of a suspected sexual abuse victim and common children whom she abandoned, the preamble goes on to state her responsibilities when conducting any interventions with these children:
“When counselors are faced with ethical dilemmas that are difficult to resolve, they are expected to engage in a care-fully considered ethical decision-making process, consulting available resources as needed. Counselors acknowledge that resolving ethical issues is a process; ethical reasoning includes consideration of professional values, professional ethical principles, and ethical standards. Counselors’ actions should be consistent with the spirit as well as the letter of these ethical standards.”
“Through a chosen ethical decision-making process and evaluation of the context of the situation, counselors work collaboratively with clients to make decisions that promote clients’ growth and development.”
Under Section A, Titled “The Counseling Relationship” states:
“Counselors facilitate client growth and development in ways that foster the interest and welfare of clients and promote formation of healthy relation-ships.”
A.1. Client Welfare A.1.a. Primary Responsibility The primary responsibility of counselors is to respect the dignity and promote the welfare of clients.
A.4. Avoiding Harm and Imposing Values A.4.a. Avoiding Harm Counselors act to avoid harming their clients, trainees, and research par-and to minimize or to remedy unavoidable or unanticipated harm.
A.4.b. Personal Values Counselors are aware of—and avoid imposing—their own values, attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors.
A.5.d. Friends or Family Members Counselors are prohibited from engaging in counseling relationships with friends or family members with whom they have an inability to remain objective.
A.6.a. Previous Relationships When counselors accept these clients, they take appropriate professional precautions such as informed consent, consultation, supervision, and documentation to ensure that judgment is not impaired and no exploitation occurs.
A.6.b. Extending Counseling Boundaries In extending these boundaries, counselors take appropriate professional precautions such as informed consent, consultation, supervision, and documentation to ensure that judgment is not impaired and no harm occurs.
A.6.e. Nonprofessional Interactions or Relationships (Other Than Sexual or Romantic Interactions or Relationships) Counselors avoid entering into non-professional relationships with former clients, their romantic partners, or their family members when the interaction is potentially harmful to the client. This applies to both in-person and electronic interactions or relationships.
A.9.b. Protecting Clients In a group setting, counselors take reasonable precautions to protect clients from physical, emotional, or psychological trauma.
Under section C of the ACA’s code of Ethics, titled, “Professional Responsibility”
C.1. Knowledge of and Compliance With Standards Counselors have a responsibility to read, understand, and follow the ACA Code of Ethics and adhere to applicable laws and regulations.
C.2.d. Monitor Effectiveness Counselors continually monitor their effectiveness as professionals and take steps to improve when necessary. Counselors take reasonable steps to seek peer supervision to evaluate their efficacy as counselors
C.2.e. Consultations on Ethical Obligations Counselors take reasonable steps to consult with other counselors, the ACA Ethics and Professional Standards Department, or related professionals when they have questions regarding their ethical obligations
C.2.g. Impairment Counselors monitor themselves for signs of impairment from their own physical, mental, or emotional problems and refrain from offering or providing professional services when impaired. They seek assistance for problems that reach the level of professional impairment, and, if necessary, they limit, suspend, or terminate their professional responsibilities until it is determined that they may safely resume their work. Counselors assist colleagues or supervisors in recognizing their own professional impairment and provide consultation and assistance when warranted with colleagues or supervisors showing signs of impairment and intervene as appropriate to prevent imminent harm to clients.
C.6.d. Exploitation of Others Counselors do not exploit others in their professional relationships.
C.7.c. Harmful Practices Counselors do not use techniques/procedures/modalities when substantial evidence suggests harm, even if such services are requested.
Under section D of the ACA’s code of Ethics, titled, “Relationships with Other Professionals”
.1.d. Establishing Professional and Ethical Obligations Counselors who are members of inter-disciplinary teams work together with team members to clarify professional and ethical obligations of the team as a whole and of its individual members. When a team decision raises ethical concerns, counselors first attempt to resolve the concern within the team. If they cannot reach resolution among team members, counselors pursue other avenues to address their concerns consistent with client well-being.
D.2.a. Consultant Competency Counselors take reasonable steps to ensure that they have the appropriate resources and competencies when providing consultation services. Counselors provide appropriate referral resources when requested or needed.
Under section F of the ACA’s code of Ethics, titled, “Supervision, Training & Teaching”
F.5.b. Impairment Students and supervisees monitor themselves for signs of impairment from their own physical, mental, or emotional problems and refrain from offering or providing professional services when such impairment is likely to harm a client or others.
F.5. Student and Supervisee Responsibilities F.5.a. Ethical Responsibilities Students and supervisees have a responsibility to understand and follow the ACA Code of Ethics. Students and supervisees have the same obligation to clients as those required of professional counselors.
Under section I of the ACA’s code of Ethics, titled, “Resolving Ethical Issues”
Introduction Professional counselors behave in an ethical and legal manner. They are aware that client welfare and trust in the profession depend on a high level of professional conduct. They hold other counselors to the same standards and are willing to take appropriate action to ensure that standards are upheld. Counselors strive to resolve ethical dilemmas with direct and open communication among all parties involved and seek consultation with colleagues and supervisors when necessary.
When uncertain about whether a particular situation or course of action may be in violation of the ACA Code of Ethics, counselors consult with other counselors who are knowledge-able about ethics
I.1.b. Ethical Decision Making When counselors are faced with an ethical dilemma, they use and document, as appropriate, an ethical decision-making model that may include, but is not limited to, consultation; consideration of relevant ethical standards, principles, and laws; generation of potential courses of action; deliberation of risks and benefits; and selection of an objective decision based on the circumstances and welfare of all involved
I.2.a. Informal Resolution When counselors have reason to believe that another counselor is violating or has violated an ethical standard and substantial harm has not occurred, they attempt to first resolve the issue informally with the other counselor if feasible, provided such action does not violate confidentiality rights that may be involved.
I.2.c. Consultation and the ACA Code of Ethics, with colleagues, or with appropriate authorities, such as the ACA Ethics and Professional Stan-dards Department.
Difficult situations can arise in any counseling setting, and when they do, counselors “are expected to engage in a carefully considered ethical decision-making process,” as recommended by the 2014 ACA Code of Ethics.
Holly Forester-Miller, PhD, and Thomas E. Davis, PhD, collaborated with the American Counseling Association to publish a white paper titled “Practitioner’s Guide to Ethical Decision Making” (2016). For more information and to read the white paper, visit the ACA Ethical Decision-Making page.
For more information regarding professional counselor competencies, visit the American Counseling Association’s website:
"Counseling psychology is a general practice and health service provider specialty in professional psychology. It focuses on how people function both personally and in their relationships at all ages. Counseling psychology addresses the emotional, social, work, school and physical health concerns people may have at different stages in their lives, focusing on typical life stresses and more severe issues with which people may struggle as individuals and as a part of families, groups and organizations. Counseling psychologists help people with physical, emotional and mental health issues improve their sense of well‐being, alleviate feelings of distress and resolve crises. They also provide assessment, diagnosis, and treatment of more severe psychological symptoms."
Julie Bacolas was under court order to pay $75 per child, per month, in support to the custodial parent father. This amount of support ordered by the court in 1998 was anemic by any standards, particularly with the parent ordered to pay held with a post undergraduate education. Julia Bacolas provided no support for her children until 2004, and only when the father submitted a case for non payment to the Department of Child Support Enforcement did she do so, involuntarily.
According to Chris Hildebrand (2016) deadbeat parenting is a common trait of the narcissist.:
"If you believe that your narcissist spouse will want to pay child in order to prove to the world what a good person they are, think again. Extracting child support is not going to be easy. A narcissist spouse will fight the concept of paying you anything for the children with whatever lies and manipulation of the legal process they can muster."
"They are likely to pay slow or not at all even if you have a very clear court order requiring it. A narcissist doesn’t think about the needs of their children. You may stay up nights worrying about whether your kids can go to summer camp or keep up ballet lessons after your divorce, but your ex won’t."
In 2008, the father had remarried and started a new family, with his now teenage and adolescent common children with Julie Bacolas. Julie made contact and the father allowed her to visit the children and stay for several days at their new home in Surprise, Arizona. The father felt it to be healthy for the children to re-establish a relationship with their mother and sought a healing for the family as a whole. The matter of the mother’s drug use, prostitution, sexual assault of my youngest daughter by her boyfriend, and the abandonment was not mentioned on the mother’s return. Everyone was happy that Julie decided to be part of her children’s lives and the past was put to rest.
Lisa Thompson (2013) explains the dangers to the family unit by reintroduction of the narcissist parent back into the dynamic:
"During a divorce, co-parenting with a narcissist can be dangerous. They will go to great lengths to possess the children. They will fabricate or distort the truth in order to maintain allegiance from their children. Deep down a Narc is highly insecure. Parenting after divorce becomes a popularity contest for the Narc. They have to ‘win’ the children at all costs. Their ego is vulnerable and causes them to lash out at the person who has rejected their idealistic view of themselves."
Unusual behavior began to be noticed by three of the children in 2009. One of the children,
the second oldest son, suffered a mental breakdown that led to a placement by his father into St. Luke’s behavioral unit in Phoenix in 2005, shortly after the mother’s day visit with Julia Ann Bacolas. The youngest daughter's temperament changed and began showing signs of bipolar disorder with psychotic features, which began to be exhibited in 2009 and ballooned into full fledged sociopathy by 2012. The oldest son began showing features of pedophilia, beginning after the mother’s day visit in 2005, became a full expression in 2006 after Julie Bacolas’ visit that year, and became a full psychiatric disorder by 2009.
John Thomas Steinbeck (2020) identifies this type of psychological manipulation of children by the narcissist as child abuse:
"Since a narcissistic parent is governed by his or her feelings, they don’t have the ability to own up to their obligations to shield their child from emotional heartache, adult issues, stories of how bad Mommy or Daddy is, etc. They will actively get the children involved in the conflict."
"These parents are a vortex of negative energy, and will suck the life out of those around them. Children of narcissists suffer, and they come in two camps: those that are aware of this parent’s bizarre, completely irrational behavior “Yeah, there my Mom/Dad goes again…”, or they’re not and are mentally and physically smothered by the parent."
"It takes an extremely selfish and sick parent to inflict such harm onto their own child.
Any mature parent can set aside anger or hurt from a divorce and keep their child on neutral ground by refusing to enroll them in the middle of the conflict. But a narcissistic parent will be hell-bent on minimizing or even outright destroying the child’s relationship with the ex and unable to place their child out of the emotional turmoil. They can’t do it. In fact, they will actively bring pain to their own kids."
I. KNOWINGLY FALSE HISTORY AND MENTICIDE WITH FAMILY INTERVENTION BY MOTHER AS PROFESSIONAL COUNSELOR
In 2009, the oldest daughter disclosed to her father that there was a “family meeting” with Julie Bacolas and three of her common children. A fourth sibling was not invited by the mother, due to his personal memories of her behaviors, before, during, and after the divorce. The meeting was an intervention, where the mother shared a false reality with the children of the following history, which did not occur, was factually incorrect, and not supported by the children’s memories or the documentary evidence already stated in this thesis (and will be supplied upon request and on file with the Superior Court in Arizona):
Julie Bacolas came full force into the children’s lives between 2008 and 2009. In the beginning I allowed her to stay at my home in Surprise to be with her children. After my second wife protested, I began paying for resorts for her visits with her children. I thought it was healthy for the children to reconnect with their mother and for the family as a whole to heal.
In 2009, I noticed two of our common children began to show me horrible disrespect, which was outside their character. Mania began to develop with my oldest son and my youngest daughter, victim of the abuse; she began using drugs and being promiscuous. One day I was complaining in the loft of our home about the children's' behavior., so my oldest daughter took me into her bedroom for a “talk.” My oldest daughter shared with me that Julie had a family meeting with three kids, but my second oldest son was not invited.
My oldest daughter, quite embarrassed, shared with me that Julie Bacolas had a family meeting where she shared that it was me, the children’s father, who Julie Bacolas had accused of fabricating the molestation of the youngest by Ed Stoffers in order to get custody of the Bacolas children. I was angry. I interrupted her and exclaimed that I had already been granted custodial parenting of the children prior to learning of the molestation. I restated to my daughter the issues with Julie which caused me to file emergency temporary custody in the first place. Julie Ann Bacolas was a bad mother and a drug addict, period! I had no want or desire to raise four elementary school age children as a single father, nor did I need or solicit the trauma of having to deal with a child who was the victim of sexual abuse. As a man and a father, the whole event was emasculating and I wish it had never occurred.
Julie told the kids that I had lied to the judge and the Superior Court to get custody of the Bacolas children. Julia Ann Bacolas made knowingly false statements to our mentally ill common children that I fabricated a story of child molestation, although the facts show otherwise, to obtain custody that I already had in the first place. Forget the fact that Julie Bacolas had joint custody and continued visitation rights, which she chose not to exercise.
The “icing on the cake” was when my oldest daughter shared that Julie presented traffic tickets from the 1990s and that she claimed that “Ed Stoffers never molested his own daughter, but was charged with sexually assaulting minors…he had an arrest warrant from California for traffic tickets!” I reminded my daughter that Col. John T. Tavernaro did the investigation, a decorated colonel from the Vietnam War, the recipient of an honorary doctoral degree from ASU, and an officer of the Superior Court. The ridiculousness of the mother’s allegation that Col. Tavernaro would fabricate evidence from California to assist me in lying to the Superior Court, but that is exactly what Julie Ann Bacolas was alleging.
My oldest daughter went on to explain that Julie said she had to leave Arizona because she feared their father. That even angered me more. How can a master’s level counselor rationalize deserting their family for nine years that she believes is a threat of harm? Wouldn’t that keep the mother in the children’s lives to ensure their safety? I was angry beyond belief! Furthermore, my intent was to never sever joint custody, nor would the court approve that. I wanted to sever visitations while perpetrator Ed Stoffers were able to be in contact with my children, but visitation was never severed, just a condition of no contact between the children and the abuser.
I confronted the two older children separately regarding the retarded allegations against me made by their mother in the “family meeting.” I was floored when they actually believed their mother. I guess it is better to believe one’s mother loves their children and would never desert them or put them in harms way, even if it means believing in a false reality to placate the hurt that their mother actually did desert her children for a life of drug abuse with the man accused of molesting the youngest member of the family. I attempted to rationalize and explain the facts they should have known so well, but good luck rationalizing with the severely mentally ill.
On later visits I learned that Julie Bacolas was parading Ed Stoffers around her adolescent children, stating he was a good man and was not what their father was painting him out to be. Such a disgusting display of mental manipulation, and all the children’s mental health suffered as a result. My second oldest son had psychosis during the visits with his mother and reacted aggressively to her manipulations. My oldest son's mental illness became more acute during this time of maternal interaction, and he started showing full symptoms of pedophilia. However, my youngest daughter suffered tremendously from the brain washing and the rewriting of history, a history she had repressed from childhood as a defense mechanism.
The psychological manipulation employed by Julia Ann Bacolas and the psychological harm she caused her children, was learned through her coursework at Chapman University, and she utilized a technique that caused what is referred to as Narcissistic Parent Alienation Syndrome, outlined below by Sharie Stines, Psy,D (2016):
"Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is the unhealthy coalition between a narcissistic parent and his or her children against the targeted, non-narcissistic, non-abusive parent. The innocent or targeted parent receives hostility and rejection from his or her children in this system. The psychological health of the children is used as arsenal in the narcissists twisted world."
"The symptoms of PAS are: (1) The children sit in judgment of the targeted parents adequacy and competency as a parent. (2) The narcissistic parent covertly encourages, empowers, and rewards the children for this behavior. (3) The narcissistic parent feigns innocence in this process. (4) The children believe they are acting independently (that is, they believe they are not being influenced by the alienating parent.)."
"The system is created as the alienating parent rewards the children when they say hostile or angry things about the targeted parent by encouraging and displaying understanding for the childrens negative feelings, when what should really be occurring is the children should be taught to respect the other parent. In essence, the children are gaining acceptance from the narcissistic parent as they complain about the target parent."
"Realize that you are dealing with a form of psychological manipulation of your children in which they have been brainwashed to respond toward you in hateful ways because they are being psychologically rewarded by having a pseudo-interpersonal relationship with the other parent, whom the children perceive as more powerful."
"Parental Alienation Syndrome is a form of brainwashing. Think of this – members of cults become brainwashed to the point where they will give up everyone they love, all for allegiance to a charismatic and manipulative leader. Some even give up their lives. Here is an interesting website on cults to help you educate yourself on the process of brainwashing and recovery: http://www.icsahome.com/
II. JULIE BACOLAS’ MISCONDUCT AS A MOTHER AND A MASTERS LEVEL COUNSELOR PERFORMING A SELF SERVING INTERVENTION OF MENTICIDE, VIOLATING ALL COUNSELING PRINCIPLES AND THE ACA CODE OF ETHICS
The father is not a practicing clinician, not an academic scholar, nor any longer employed in the field of behavioral health. He is a human being. A man, horribly damaged in the community and with his right to associate with his two minor children from a second marriage as a result of this sociopathic menticide of Julie Bacolas. These children went to the community and the courts and spread falsehoods about the father based on this menticide, the children's resulting menticide symptoms, and continue to perpetrate a severe and grotesque defamation of this man’s reputation. As a result, the father published all the lies and falsehoods and menticide that has been penetrated against him in order to restore his good reputation, if that is even possible.
According to Lauren Pearle (2016), in an ABC news report on parental brainwashing and alienation, she states:
“Parental alienation” is the idea that one parent can maliciously turn a child against the other parent for no good reason. Dr. Richard Warshak calls it “divorce poison.”
“The kids hear a steady drumbeat about a parent’s flaws and lies that portray the parent as unloving and unworthy of love,” explained Warshak, a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center and author of "Divorce Poison."
"Alienated children, he says, will “pull away from a formerly loved mother or father, and often an entire extended family, leaving the rejected relatives puzzled over what they might have said or done that caused a total rupture in relations.”
Children who suffer from parental alienation may behave reprehensibly toward a caring parent without feeling any shame and hold no positive thoughts or memories of that parent, said Warshak."
"When alienation is extreme, children can be manipulated into making false accusations of child abuse against even the most loving parent, he said."
This is the level of misconduct of Julia Bacolas with the intervention and the continued menticide symptoms that continues to this very day.
1. Had Julie Bacolas’ reality had any merit, which factually it does not, but if it did, then due care needed to be taken regarding any interventions she intended to undertake with her children. All children should have been a part of such an intervention, and the one who was excluded should have attended, if such an intervention was appropriate in the first place, which it was not.
The American Psychological Association outline these due care requirements under the integrity of psychologists:
"Psychologists seek to promote integrity in the science, teaching, and practice of psychology. In these activities psychologists are honest, fair, and respectful of others. In describing or reporting their qualifications, services, products, fees, research, or teaching, they do not make statements that are false, misleading, or deceptive. Psychologists strive to be aware of their own belief systems, values, needs, and limitations and the effect of these on their work. To the extent feasible, they attempt to clarify for relevant parties the roles they are performing and to function appropriately in accordance with those roles. Psychologists avoid improper and potentially harmful dual relationships (family)."
2. As a mother with a Masters in Counseling from an accredited and respected university, it was incumbent upon Julia Ann Bacolas to establish a counseling relationship and follow up groups with her children, which was not done. The goal should have been family healing and to discuss concerns she had, as well as the concerns the children had, regarding their lives prior to the divorce, the issues surrounding the divorce, and her post divorce abandonment. The first meeting should have been an open discussion where everyone discussed their feelings openly. The youngest daughter's molestation should not have been a topic of discussion until after regression therapy was initiated by the mother, to substantiate the sexual abuse by her boyfriend.
Gary M. Ernsdorff (1993) identifies the psychological problems with manipulation of an abuse victim's memories:
"While many victims of childhood sexual abuse remember the abusive incidents throughout their lifetimes, some victims apparently repress, or subconsciously force, the memories from their minds. Repression in this manner can have immediate benefits fora child-victim attempting to cope with sexual abuse. Nevertheless,the psychological damage inflicted by childhood sexual abuse may remain with the child throughout adulthood."
"Abuse of this nature, in addition to posing an immediate threat to the physical well-being of the child, can have debilitating psychological effects that last for years, or even for a lifetime."
"Although there is little agreement among psychologists concerning the theory of repression and the recovery of previously re-pressed memories, therapists claim that the trauma caused by childhood sexual abuse may lead a victim to repress all memory of the event. The trauma of childhood sexual abuse is triggered not only by the fright and pain of the event, but also by the veil of secrecy demanded by the abuser and the innocence and dependency of the victim. In response, the child, unable to understand or adequately deal with the event, escapes this psychological turmoil by pretending the abuse never happened and repressing all conscious memory of it."
3. The goal of the intervention was not to heal the children from past trauma, to heal the family as a whole, and to better her childen’s emotions to become functional adults. The goal of the intervention was the mother’s selfish narcissistic needs to redefine the children’s history, that she was not a drug abusing mother who neglected her children (which on court documents, that premise is factually incorrect), that she did not expose her daughter to harm from her boyfriend on a sexual molestation (which she did), that the children’s father lied to a Superior Court judge (which he couldn’t have) in order to gain custody (which he already had). PLEASE REVIEW THE ACA CODE OF ETHICS TO SEE THE BLATANT ABROGATION OF THE MOTHER’S DUTY OF CARE IN THIS MENTICIDE OF HER CHILDREN’S MINDS AND MEMORIES.
"Brainwashing" is reviewed as a technique on pycholgy.wikia.org as an intervention in conventional psychological applications:
"The American Psychological Association (APA) in 1983 asked Margaret Singer, one of the leading proponents of coercive persuasion theories, to chair a taskforce called the APA taskforce on Deceptive and Indirect Techniques of Persuasion and Control (DIMPAC) to investigate whether brainwashing or "coercive persuasion"
"It is often more helpful to analyze "brainwashing" as a combination of manipulations to promote persuasion and attitude change such as propaganda, coercion, capture-bonding, and restriction of access to neutral sources of information. Note that many of these techniques are more subtly used (usually unconsciously) by advertisers, governments, schools, parents and peers, so the aura of exoticism around "brainwashing" is undeserved. At the same time, nuanced forms of indoctrination and propaganda in religious, political and commercial venues may occasion wider and deeper impacts than do outright coercive tactics. Mirroring George Orwell's doublespeak, strategists of indoctrination and propaganda frequently disguise themselves as promoters of freedom and liberation."
"One of the first published uses of the term thought reform occurred in the title of the book by Robert Jay Lifton (a professor of psychology and psychiatry at John Jay College and at the Graduate Center of the City University of New York): Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism: A Study of 'Brainwashing' in China (1961). (Lifton also testified at the 1976 trial of Patty Hearst.) In that book he used the term thought reform as a synonym for brainwashing, though he preferred the first term. The elements of thought reform as published in that book are sometimes used as a basis for cult checklists."
"Benjamin Zablocki sees brainwashing as "term for a concept that stands for a form of influence manifested in a deliberately and systematically applied traumatizing and obedience-producing process of ideological resocializations" and states this same concept had historically also been called thought reform and coercive persuasion."
"Popular speech continues to use the word brainwashed informally and pejoratively to describe persons subjected to intensive influence resulting in the rejection of old beliefs and in the acceptance of new ones; or to account for someone who holds strong ideas considered to be implausible and that seem resistant to evidence, common sense, experience, and logic."
4. No professional counselors were present for this or follow up “meetings” with the children, to peddle the mother’s selfish desire to rewrite her children’s history. The abuse victim was repressing her early childnood trauma, originally regurgitated without prompting during several audio taped therapy sessions with marriage and family counselor, Rochelle Silverman, in 1998. The risk of psychological harm was great for all these adult children, but the risk was acute for the abuse victim who had repressed the memories of abuse. On following visits, the mother actually paraded the accused perpetrator before the victim and the children, painting him as a “fine man”. Those follow up visits, if they should have been done in the first place, should have had collaboration and the presence of other behavioral health professionals AFTER repression therapy had occurred with the victim, for obvious reasons to protect this adolescent child from harm.
Ofer Zur, Ph.D. (2020) discusses the problems with family interventions by mental health couselors:
"In today’s world, analyzing or conducting formal psychotherapy with one’s child is a violation of the professional ethical code of psychotherapists, and definitely constitutes a forbidden dual relationship. "
"Untimely interpretation, even if correct, can be as devastating as an inaccurate interpretation. While the former makes people feel exposed and unprotected, the latter confuses people regarding their own realities and makes them doubt their perceptions."
"The danger of treating family members as patients cannot be overstated. If the therapist takes on the role of the therapist in the home, the spouse or child will most likely assume the role of the patient. The therapist may be expected to know what the others are feeling whether or not it is expressed, or the ‘patients’ may ask the ‘therapist’ to label their emotions and solve their inner conflicts."
"A child of a psychotherapist interviewed by Maeder (1989) reports that he was regularly hit with the “Freudian whip.” One patient, a high school teacher, recalls that his biggest childhood trauma was his therapist father’s endless interrogations."
"More to the point are the therapist-parents/partners emotionally involved with their family members, or are they maintaining an analytic distance that keeps them from being truly engaged? The total understanding syndrome often manifests to the extent that therapists tend to excuse all behavior. It may be difficult for children to share their frustrations and anger in the light of their therapist-parents’ incredible ability ‘to understand."
"These therapeutic techniques pose similar problems to those of interpretation and total understanding. Children and partners of therapists are labeled schizophrenic, paranoid, narcissistic, self destructive, passive-aggressive, borderline, and many other DSM III-R (APA, 1980) diagnostic categories by their therapist-parents. While non-therapists often label as well, psychotherapists have a clear advantage, knowing the appropriate categories and the professional jargon. Labeling is extremely injurious."
"Demeaning stories are not only a reflection of a failed alliance between therapist and patient, but an alarming warning to the children about their parents’ capabilities to demean others. Paradoxically, what provides safety for patients often creates confusion or even fear in the psychotherapists’ family members. One child expressed a typical confusion; “whether the rules were supposed to protect the patients from my power or protect me from their destructive badness.”
"Psychotherapists’ skills and knowledge have a profound effect on their families’ lives. The misuse of their skills, whether through the employment of jargon, labeling, interpretation, or ‘total understanding’ is likely to have a negative effect on spouses and children."
5. The ACA Code of Ethics explicitly directs counselors to abstain from any behaviors that would harm their clients, patients, and in this case, her children. The menticide that was conducted by Julie Bacolas was done with eyes wide open, fully aware of the psychological harm such menticide symptoms would cause her children, but she conducted this agenda in spite of her education and knowledge that such conduct could cause severe harm to her offspring, in order to paint a false reality of a ‘victim’ mother, who would never abandon, neglect, or expose her children to harm. As a result of this psychological interference for purely selfish reasons, all the children’s severe mental illnesses began to show fruit upon the mother’s re-entry into her children’s lives, and the severe mental illness came to full expression after the menticide intervention(s) with one child symptomatic and diagnosed with schitzoaffective disorder, another with bipolar psychotic features, and the third with full fledged expression of pedophilia disorder. The fourth child’s current psychological status is unknown as the father has been estranged by his adult children by the menticide of Julie Ann Bacolas.
Joy Natwick (2017) warns counselors about the harm that could be done from such an unsupervised intervention:
"The first consideration for counselors must be the well-being of their clients,"
"To determine the likelihood of this type of relationship causing harm, counselors should use an ethical decision-making model to weigh the risks and benefits of the relationship. Counselors should also document this process."
"The 2014 ethics code prohibits engaging in counseling relationships with family members with whom the counselor cannot remain objective."
"It seems highly unlikely that a counselor would be able to remain objective in treating an immediate family member, such as a sibling, even if that person has been absent from the counselor’s life for a number of years."
"It is also important that the counselor not become the arbitrator between these clients if they are having family difficulties."
"Regardless, it is the counselor’s job to carefully examine potentially problematic situations and uphold the 2014 ACA Code of Ethics."
Julie Bacolas used the Parental Alienation Syndrome as a psychological tool, which she learned to employ as a counselor and as amalignant sociopath narcissist. This menticide of her adolescent children is a deliberate act of child abuse which permanently harmed their mental health and their relationship with their non-narcissist parent. Wikipedia.com has substantial cited sources on this subject matter:
"Some propose that parental alienation be recognized as a form of child abuse or family violence. They assert that parental alienation creates stress on the alienated parent and child, and significantly increases the child's lifetime risk of mental illness."
"Acts of parental alienation may be harmful to children."
"Parental alienation during childhood report negative consequences, many report outcomes that they attribute to parental alienation, including low self-esteem, addiction and substance abuse, trust issues, and relationship problems."
"A retrospective study of adults found that independent of damage of a child's relationship with the other parent, perceived experiences with parental alienation during childhood correlate in adulthood with lower self-sufficiency, lower self-esteem, higher rates of major depressive disorder, and insecure attachment styles"
"Some mental health professionals argue that severe parental alienation should be established as a form of emotional abuse and domestic violence."
"Those proponents assert that children who are exposed to intimate partner distress between their parents may develop psychological symptoms as a result of that exposure."
6. Approximately five years after the estrangement of the last adult child from the first marriage, the father was involved in a dependency matter before the juvenile court. Previously, the father had been fully vetted by the Department of Child Safety five times over the course of a 23 year period, but through the influence and direction of Julie Bacolas for vindictive, sociopathic, and inhuman reasons, it is believed she directed her adult children to inject themselves into that dependency with insanity that only a Stanley Kubrick movie could be on par with. Although Julie Bacolas’ menticide and psychotic rants against the father had no factual basis, and two adult children’s testimony were impeached as a result of their falsities and mental health status, the dependency court was “prejudiced” in the opinion of the father’s attorney, and to avoid the court to move in the “best interests of the dependent children” and “better to err on the side of caution” to sever his parenting rights in favor of a family placement, the father self severed his parenting rights to his two minor children from his second marriage. Again, a father who had been vetted as fit and proper five previous times.
Scholarly and legal investigation and scrutiny is invited in this horror show of a life of psychological abuse against a man who spent his life loving and caring for his children. What family relatives did the two children from the second marriage be placed with? Post severance family placement with the fourth child, whose current mental state is uncertain, the schitzoaffecrtive, the bipolar with psychotic features, and the pedophile!
Julie Ann Bacolas’ menticide symptoms of her adult children continues to this day, she has “weaponized” his children against him and his second family, and in hindsight, weaponized the father against his adult children. Therefore, making her goals complete….an utterly destroyed family and irreversible damage with the father and all his children in a vindictive show of sociopathy that must be the subject for future academic investigations.
Brandi Allen (2018) explains the family dynamic of the lying manipulative narcissist parent and her narcissist children, later referred to as "flying monkeys."
"Pathological lying is the hallmark characteristics of a narcissist. They lie out of their need to manipulate and control. The narcissist lies by making things up and by leaving things out – and he does it all in amazing detail. Some believe the narcissist lies because he believes the lie, but I disagree. I think that a narcissist lies all the time because it’s an easy way to devastate the recipient and because lying allows the narcissist/sociopath to recreate himself at will and on a whim."
"Thus, creating an environment where he can always be giving himself props for getting away with something. To a narcissist, lying is just like faking emotions. A means to an end.
He’ll lie so much about so many things that your head will spin."
"Victims who want and or need the torture to stop but still must deal with co-parenting issues are left to their own devices without one of the privileges that many other victims may take for granted. As a victim who co-parents, how do you block a phone number, move away, refuse to answer the door, blow off the in-laws, and so forth when children are involved?"
"Since the narcissist has no conscience, dragging the children into the dirt is nothing and for them the easiest way to hurt you. As they know the children mean the most to you, not to them, unfortunately. The narcissist will use every excuse in the book pertaining to the children to intrude upon your new life. At some point, the narcissist may even threaten you either with a call to child protective services or by saying that he simply won’t be bringing them back."
7. As a result of the bizarre, disgusting, and grotesque defamation of character of this man and father, he went on a campaign to restore his reputation in the community by publishing the atrocious statements about his character, that has utterly destroyed his life. This man has a “prima facia” case of defamation of character against Julie Bacolas and some of her children, but does not want to sue his own children in a civil court for damages, as the thought of litigating against one’s own family is very disturbing, although he will prevail. An attorney has been retained naming all these parties as litigants, but the father hopes morals and logic will dictate and has put a pause on legal matters temporarily in order to give his children, obvious victims of menticide symptoms by Julie Bacolas, the opportunity to mitigate the gross damages they all caused against his person.
Claire Jack, Ph.D (2020), identifies the use of flying monkeys in the narcissist plans of annihilating the reputation of the non-narcissist parent:
"Flying monkeys get caught up in a narcissist’s plan — often to damage the life of another person. The narcissist may use their flying monkeys as piggy in the middle, carrying information from party to party. The flying monkey may use gaslighting tactics, open aggression, and guilt-tripping in order to make another person feel bad and weak, whilst shoring up the narcissist. And they’re often involved in pleading the case of the narcissist."
"Narcissists love having at least one flying monkey, as it makes them feel important and means they can appear to be above the people below them (on both sides) who are caught up in the messy parts of the drama."
"The narcissist often recruits his or her flying monkeys from among other family members, such as siblings, spouses, or children".
"Some flying monkeys are so browbeaten by the narcissist that they have far less capacity than otherwise might be expected when it comes to knowing right from wrong. They may have experienced years of emotional abuse at the hands of the narcissist and have lost a sense of self and independent decision-making along the way. "
8. The father has a long lost son he found in Alaska by the name of Jordan Alexi, but the menticide symptoms by the older Bacolas children and the vindictive nature of the assaults created an outcome where these people called this innocent young man, spread knowingly false information about his father’s reputation, and now his long lost son who fought so hard to find his father, will not have anything to do with him. Three families destroyed by Julia Bacolas, machiavellian narcissist sociopath, and her narcissistic flying monkeys.
Narcissist parents produce narcissist children, and there are physiological factors at work as well. It is highly documented that Michael Robertson changed his major in college away from a pre- law liberal arts education, as his goal was to become an attorney. He changed majors to developmental psychology and presented a graduation research project titled, "Accelerating Children's Cognitive Development."
Three of these children had severe developmental and language delays, and tested 3 1/2 to 4 1//2 below the standard mean on cognitive tests. The goal of the father was dendretic growth on existing brain cells through high nutrition, a high amino acid diet, challenging and problem solving games and assignments, and adlerean-dreikurian parenting techniques:
If children are born with the constructs absent in their brain allowing for empathy, then they will develop into narcissists based the physiology of their brains. IF these base brain cells are absent, then there can be no dendtic growth in these areas dictating the expression of narcissism. The Bacolas children had severe developmental, language, and cognitive delays. The father believes this physiology is a hereditary marker for narcissism in his common children with Julia Bacolas.
Narcissism is the absence of the emotions of love, empathy, lack of compassionate understanding of others, selfishness, involving a sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, and a need for admiration. If the human brain lacks these areas that are responsible for these behaviors, then there are no brain cells to grow dendrites in this ease of the brain and the narcissist behaviors will become predominantly manifest, thus the ease of the menticide, the narcissistic and sociopathic smear campaign, and the use of her children as flying monkeys...all point to a conclusion that the Bacolas chidlren are adult narcissists, inherited from their mother, , endowed with these characteristics genetically and actualized as a disorder through the menticide and the environment Julia Ann Bacolas created upon her return from her abandonment.
Developmentally delayed children who lack the brain structures to avoid Narcissist personality disorder, are outhline by Prajinta Sthapitanonda Pesqueda (2020), and become flying monkeys of the narcissist parent:
"It is common knowledge that the brain of a person with anti-social personality disorders like narcissism, sociopathy, and psychopathy is different from the neuro-typical healthy individual. Researchers have used MRIs to scan the brains of individuals who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder and concluded that narcissists have less gray matter in a part of the cerebral cortex called the left anterior insula. They also have structural abnormalities in a region of the brain that has been linked to empathy. It is clear that other parts of the brain do not function correctly either."
"If we accept this definition, we must apply it to the mentally disordered individual who is missing the most basic of human emotions: empathy, compassion, regret, remorse, guilt, accountability, fear, respect, intimacy, and yes, even love. There is a deficit of emotion in the disordered individual that renders them incapable of functioning as regular people do. They spend their lives reflecting what others show them, consuming the energy and light from vulnerable humans who do possess the ability to experience the full swath of emotion and cycle through supplies of fuel to fill their empty souls."
"ladimir Solovyov writes: “The basic falsehood and evil of egoism lie … in the fact that, ascribing to himself in all justice an absolute significance, he unjustly refuses to others this same significance.” Egotism leads to petty choices and thus paves the way to moral atrophy. Grandiosity, entitlement, magical thinking, and other characteristics of the narcissist and psychopath show that their privilege and perceived power as Übermensch supersedes any moral obligation to others."
"The deeply depraved mentally impaired narcissist has created a void, a nothingness in the heart of their character, and he desperately needs to be convinced of his own existence. He needs to feel that he is. Since he will not achieve this through the pursuit of virtue, he will do so through the affirmation, praise, and adoration from others. Hence, the narcissist creates the false self, the shadow self and mirrors the human qualities of others as if they are his own."
"Essentially, his behavior is not principled. As a consequence, he has contempt and hatred for any individual or institution (the church) that possesses consistent ethics because it exposes his own inconsistent and arbitrary lack of ethics or morals and reminds him of his own self-deception and false self. Oddly enough, narcissists and psychopaths actually believe their own lies and false constructs to a large degree."
ABOUT THE AUTHOR OF THIS THESIS
Michael Robertson, is the author of this website. The content is in no way meant to be malicious or to hurt anyone in any way, shape, or form. His reputation has been severely damaged by falsehoods published to his common children with Julie Bacolas and published to the courts, published outside the courts affecting his ability to raise his two young children from a second marriage. Michael's intent is to publish all the false information that has been spread about him and what has defamed his good character, and to respond to all that false defamation of his character, by publishing true and accurate information about the people who slandered him, their motives, and the damages they caused him.
All the information Michael Robertson publishes in this and other websites, about the people who have maliciously defamed his character, is true and factual, supported by case files, documentary evidence, reports, and a myriad of witnesses over the past 23 years. Michael Robertson is restoring his destroyed reputation by publishing truthful content regarding the people who committed those injuries to him and his life. His career has been destroyed by these people's falsehoods, his relationship with his minor children, and the trauma to is soul and spirit is immeasurable by these evil and constant attacks against his good character.
The character assassination and defamation of character perpetrated by Julie Bacolas is extreme, bizarre, and grotesque. Michael Robertson is publishing true and accurate information to clear his name in the community, severely damaged by knowingly false information spread by her and her cohorts.
Michael Robertson worked in the behavioral health field with at risk child and adolescent populations at Arizona Baptist Children's Services, as a program supervisor at Community Psychology & Educational Services, and through the health care registry as a psychiatric technician at the Maricopa County Psychiatric Annex.
His university graduation research project was "Accelerating Children's Cognitive Development" which was also the basis of his Master's thesis he was working on before his ex-wife, Julie Bacolas, stole all his research, computer, back up files, and work, during their 1998 divorce. Michael Robertson pursued that subject matter as three of his four children had developmental disabilities and language delay, coupled with intellectual giftedness in the areas of qualitative and quantitative reasoning. Mr. Robertson's life work was devoted to developing the intellectual capacities in his children.
In 2004, Michael Robertson, founded the "Counseling Outreach for Battered Women & Abused Children" and also worked for charitable causes supporting the families of police officers who lost their lives in the line of duty.
Michael Robertson has worked with the Department of Child Safety over the past 22 years, establishing himself as a fit and proper parent of children and a model of fatherhood in the community. DCS vetted him as a fit parent in 1998 during his divorce to his first wife, Julie Bacolas. In 2002, Michael Sr was vetted as a fit parent when issues arose with his girlfriend and newborn baby, by the department at that time. In 2009, when his step daughter was brutally raped by registered sex offender Philip Menting (serving a 35 year sentence for that crime) Michael Robertson was further vetted by DCS as a fit parent when issues arose regarding his second wife, the mother of his step daughter. In 2016 and 2017, Michael Robertson participated in two family preservation programs stemming from reports and issues with his second wife, and again he was fully vetted by the Department of Child Safety as a fit and proper parent.
Stemming from a character assassination and defamation of his outstanding reputation with families and children, promulgated by the Department of Child Safety in order to avoid yet another civil case for damages for the improper removal of his minor children from his care, Michael Robertson self-severed his parenting rights to his two minor children in 2020. Michael refused to continue with the department's "vaudeville show" before the juvenile court by the departments parading of his severely mentally ill adult children from his first marriage, nor put his family through any further DCS involvement, whose involvement morphed into protecting the state from civil damages by yet another maligned parent.
In 2020, Michael was admitted to law school in pursuit of a Juris Doctorate degree in law.
Michael is forming two non profit organizations, the first to aid families who are wrongly prosecuted by a rogue DCS, viewed by many in the community as an "adoption mill" and the juvenile court system equally viewed as "kangaroo courts". The second non profit is to aid parents of SMI (severely mentally ill) children who tortuously injure their care giver parents.
When asked about the tragedies that beset Michael Robertson, he laughs and responds, "what...the train wreck that is my life?"
MIchael does not see himself as a victim, but rather a victor and chooses self actualization and transcendence over the despair of his lost children.
Michael Robertson gives credit in his victory to the renowned psychiatrist Victor Frankl, who himself suffered great tragedies under the oppression of the Nazi's at Auschwitz.. Michael's playbook? "Man's Search for Meaning" by Victor Frankl:
Michael has a deep relationship with God which is very metaphysical. Jane Fonda, the liberal actress and anti war activist from the 1960, shares in the communion with "heavenly father" in the same manner. Jane explains her relationship in this manner:
'Beginning to pray “was like being hooked up to the power of mystery that had been leading me,” Fonda has written. “It wasn’t so much a learning about the existence of God, because learning implies intellect. It was more of an experiencing of his presence, a psychic lucidity that was allowing me to access something beyond consciousness.”
"It was about a “rush of intuition that seems to permeate our entire being. That is what Jesus meant when he said God is within us.”
It is trauma bonding....
Narcissistic personality disorder is an inheritable psychological condition; research evidence indicates that a person is more likely to develop NPD if said personality disorder occurs in the medical history of his or her family.
The lies narcissist tell are designed to brainwash narcissistic abuse victims into experiencing cognitive dissonance. A narcissist will control the way you view them, yourself and your family and friends. A narcissist will manipulate a narcissistic abuse victim very much like a cult leader will use brainwashing techniques to gain complete control over how a victim thinks and feels.
Brainwashing (also known as mind control, menticide, coercive persuasion, thought control, thought reform, and re-education) is the concept that the human mind can be altered or controlled by certain psychological techniques. Brainwashing is said to reduce its subject's ability to think critically or independently to allow the introduction of new, unwanted thoughts and ideas into the subject's mind, as well as to change his or her attitudes, values, and beliefs.
It's important to learn about mind control tactics so you'll be able to spot them when exercised against you. You will learn to defend yourself and turn the spell around its caster. And because dangerous cults, sociopaths, and psychopaths use these tactics quite frequently, you will be better armed to discern those people and distance yourself from them.
"I recall very accurately when I saw the devil up close & personal, personified in human form. Twice I witnessed the black eyes, the pure unfiltered evil of demons peering out behind human flesh."
The "flying monkey" concept creator deserves many awards. Right on "victim" is best used when there is little hope of a different outcome. Your videos are helping turn "victims" into "survivors" into "thrivers" into "healthy parent/spouse/friend etc. The only way that I've been able to identify the narcs of my long past, has been through the flying monkeys.
The cause is unknown but likely involves a combination of genetic and environmental factors.
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